Mum has 'no regrets' after shaming daughter

[daydream**believer]

http://www.essentialkids.com.au/older-kids/behaviour-and-discipline-for-older-kids/mum-has-no-regret...

"A North Carolina mother who punished her daughter for bullying is being accused of being a cyberbully herself after she shamed her daughter by sharing her photo online.

Cara Schneider had her daughter pose with a green sign that reads,

My name is Hailey. I am a kind caring, smart girl, but I make poor choices with social media.

As punishment, I am selling my iPod and will be donating the money to the charity Beat Bullying in hopes of changing my behavior as well as bringing awareness to Bullying. Because bullying is wrong."

Thoughts on this?

I personally agree with the guy that defended the mum by writing ‘‘Bullying thrives in secrecy. Bringing it into the light is the only way to stop it. And this mother isn't bullying her child; she’s teaching her daughter to take responsibility for her actions and also teaching her compassion by walking a mile in her victim’s choices.’’

I asked my 13 year old daughter what she thought of this and she also agrees with what the Mum did. She said "The girl was bullying people online, hiding behind the computer so her punishment should be shared online as well"

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@am*3 wrote:

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@*pepe wrote:

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@catsnknots wrote:

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@*pepe wrote:

...and those saying this is going to blow over in a day or two have obviously forgotten what high school was like.

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I am wondering how the girl that was being bullied felt about going to school and having to face that bully but then also having to go home and face the bully online... 

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she probably felt hunted and hounded and like there was nowhere for her to go to where she could just be left in peace to get on with her life...

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and the girls/boys (not reported who/how many she bullied) she continually cyberbullied ( even after the mother disciplined her in other ways to get her to stop doing that).. would they have felt the same?

Will those continually bullied by this girl finally be relieved now?

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Hopefully this extreme cruelty will be enough ........................................omg 

They are ALL children....including the child in the OP

what ever any of them do or don't do (and mind you we only have the Mum's say so in media reports) doesn't wipe any of them out as being children and doesn't validate the cruelty of adults 

even adult crims get to use the Justice System and apparently 'punishment to fit the crime if guilty'

as far as it being child abuse and harmful to a child and a child/parent relationship Am3, there is info available online .

Catmad, you made your son return something that wasn't his.....that is what any half decent parent would do .He would be naturally be embarrassed at the time ......but get over that and learn from it.There was no cruelty in what you did....it's just basic parenting.

That doesn't compare to this.

[cherry*135]

Sensationalism and speculation.

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I don't think the mother gets it either Am3 

[*crikey*mate*]

I like she ele's word - hyperbole

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I just went back to the OP 

it asks Thoughts on this?

not a demonstration of the topic ...given by adults 

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@patchoo78 wrote:

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@izabsmiling wrote:

from the OP 

Cara Schneider, an avid Crossfitter, says she didn't expect the photo shaming her daughter to get spread around as much as it has but has no regrets about it. 

no regrets for shaming her own daughter online .......

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It's not going to kill the girl to feel a little bit of shame.. She should feel ashamed for bullying people online.

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though that would be the very worst outcome .... it is not impossible that it 'could' indeed do that 

It happens 

[cherry*135]

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@am*3 wrote:

Sensationalism and speculation.

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In posts here.

My thoughts.. as already posted.. I think what the mother did was OK, except I would hide the girls face, and possibly only use the initial of her first name on the poster she was holding up.

[cherry*135]

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@crikey*mate wrote:

I like she ele's word - hyperbole

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Me too.

[everything*that*i*ever*wanted]

I totally agree that most bullies learn it at home. They model the parents' behaviours. Then they wonder why their kids are always in trouble at school for it.

[i-need-a-martini]

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@everything*that*i*ever*wanted wrote:

I totally agree that most bullies learn it at home. They model the parents' behaviours. Then they wonder why their kids are always in trouble at school for it.

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I disagree. Cyberbullying isn't like traditional bullying. Kids on FB or whatever have less control and more influence. It's too easy to say something nasty to another in writing without understanding the consequences. Whereas most schoolyard bullies know what they are doing.

I've had to ask my son to remove comments he has made to friends on FB because I think it shows a level of nastines that is not in his character. And some of the stuff I see from his (200) friends is unbelievable -  it doesn't take much for some ribbing to get get out of hand.

In terms of the OP, I think that public shaming is never accepatble for children.