Mum has 'no regrets' after shaming daughter

[daydream**believer]

http://www.essentialkids.com.au/older-kids/behaviour-and-discipline-for-older-kids/mum-has-no-regret...

"A North Carolina mother who punished her daughter for bullying is being accused of being a cyberbully herself after she shamed her daughter by sharing her photo online.

Cara Schneider had her daughter pose with a green sign that reads,

My name is Hailey. I am a kind caring, smart girl, but I make poor choices with social media.

As punishment, I am selling my iPod and will be donating the money to the charity Beat Bullying in hopes of changing my behavior as well as bringing awareness to Bullying. Because bullying is wrong."

Thoughts on this?

I personally agree with the guy that defended the mum by writing ‘‘Bullying thrives in secrecy. Bringing it into the light is the only way to stop it. And this mother isn't bullying her child; she’s teaching her daughter to take responsibility for her actions and also teaching her compassion by walking a mile in her victim’s choices.’’

I asked my 13 year old daughter what she thought of this and she also agrees with what the Mum did. She said "The girl was bullying people online, hiding behind the computer so her punishment should be shared online as well"

[*pepe]

no the mum did not do everything else as she is only just getting rid of the ipod now after pussyfooting around.

[*pepe]

...and those saying this is going to blow over in a day or two have obviously forgotten what high school was like.

[nevynreally]

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@poison_ivys_pen wrote:

Agree with you 100% also Pepe.  All of it could've been done without the fanfare the mother has done.

I kind of think of the old adage two wrongs don't make a right no matter which way you look at it, far easier ways to displine the daughter over her online behaviour without all the attention seeking the mother has done.  One make her apologise to her victims online and sell off the items without as I said the fanfare to go with.

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Except, now so many more parents are aware of what their kids could be up to. So many more kids are aware that they could end up in the same boat.

[**meep**]

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@izabsmiling wrote:

the danger is when kids are taught that cruelty can be justified ...

they may learn that if they 'determine' it can be justified (ie;as the Mum does by having No Regrets) ...

they may just follow that lead ....

perhaps become the sorts of people  who tell others to swallow a bag a cement ...rather than be a responsible,accountable,mature,considerate  adults when they grow up

the scope of what the Mother has done to her daughter is huge

not the kind of thing which should be thought to earn a child's respect 

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I don't think she had any respect for her mother to begin with.  What makes young people think there are no consequences?  Pushing the boundaries?   Those who understand the consequences, know how far is too far.

[izabsmiling]

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@***super_nova*** wrote:

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@izabsmiling wrote:

the danger is when kids are taught that cruelty can be justified ...

they may learn that if they 'determine' it can be justified (ie;as the Mum does by having No Regrets) ...

they may just follow that lead ....

the scope of what the Mother has done to her daughter is huge

not the kind of thing which should be thought to earn a child's respect 

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Life is cruel, and if you do stupid nasty things to people it will come back and bite you.  That is a good life lesson.  What else do you suggest?  Obviously the mum did everything else and this little bleep did not give a bleep. 
Anyway, all those people around the world will soon forget about her, by end of next week they will have something else to talk about. 

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Supa, the child is a child.

Her Mother is THE adult.

The Mother has done something very cruel to her child.

The acts of the ;Mother' will bite the Child .....

regardless of what her 13 year old did ....The Mother has abused her child .....is cruel and uncaring about the hurt she caused a child.

I feel very sad and concerned for the Child......

[just_me_karen]

I agree, Iza. The daughter has obviously learned bullying behaviours from the mother....so the idjit mother perpetuates it by bullying as punishment.

[cherry*135]

supernova 

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Life is cruel, and if you do stupid nasty things to people it will come back and bite you.  That is a good life lesson.  What else do you suggest?  Obviously the mum did everything else and this little bleep did not give a bleep. 
Anyway, all those people around the world will soon forget about her, by end of next week they will have something else to talk about. 

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I agree with this post. 

Any suggestions that this girl will be damaged in future, by the actions her mother took re the girls cyberbulling is total speculation.

[cherry*135]

Has the mother committed a crime? Will her child be taken off her by child services now?

[just_me_karen]

Some parents just create bully kids, because they're bullies themselves. This parent is obviously one of them.

[**meep**]

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@just_me_karen wrote:
I agree, Iza. The daughter has obviously learned bullying behaviours from the mother....so the idjit mother perpetuates it by bullying as punishment.

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You are probably right.  Children's behaviour is usually reflective of the upbringing from their parents.