My brother and Self Defense

[herbto3]

My mum and I dont know what to do anymore. We are in the NT. Several weeks ago my brother defended himself against the full on intoxicated estranged spouse as she wanted him to go and buy drugs. He said no and she attacked him twice. He defended himself but since then he has found himself on dvo charges brought on by the cops. 

I feel for my brother as he is a good person and dad but no one is listening to him. The cops wont take away the charges as they see it as domestic volence. They dont see it as self defense. The x sister in law wants the charges dropped but the cops wont drop them. My mum is as she puts it hitting her head against a brick wall trying to get someone to listen to her about this as my brother is an abused husband the victim. Mum says it is not the normal run of the mill case as he is a bloke not a lady. Only ladies get abused not husbands. My brother has stood by his family as his x is a druggy and cant look after the 5 kids properly. He has been their protector.

What I want to do is help my brother and his kids but I dont know how to do it..I dont know who to get mum or brother to talk to. I dont want my brother to kill himself as this is what my mum has been thinking he might do. My brother and mum need help.

Is there anyone out there who could tell me what to say to my brother to help him please? And my mum? Can someone please please help me.... 

[*pepe]

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@imastawka wrote:

 A thought - herbto is an anagram for bother

Everybody sure got bothered.

Just throwing it in the mix

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hmmm winnie the pooh says 'bother' a lot... so the OP is missing because he has gone to find hunny...

[*mrgrizz*]

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@siggie-reported-by-alarmists wrote:

Good one Herb........lol.

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i think you been smoking too much of that weed.

it enhances your imagination

[cherry*135]

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@*pepe wrote:

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@imastawka wrote:

 A thought - herbto is an anagram for bother

Everybody sure got bothered.

Just throwing it in the mix

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hmmm winnie the pooh says 'bother' a lot... so the OP is missing because he has gone to find hunny...

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Best explanation so far.

[punch*drunk]

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@*mrgrizz* wrote:

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@siggie-reported-by-alarmists wrote:

Good one Herb........lol.

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i think you been smoking too much of that weed.

it enhances your imagination

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And makes you paranoid.

[azureline**]

I feel kind of sorry for new posters-----or potential ones lol

[j*oono]

Mostly they don't come in here complaining about domestic violence. 

[azureline**]

no but they might be reading it...........

[siggie-reported-by-alarmists]

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@*mrgrizz* wrote:

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@siggie-reported-by-alarmists wrote:

Good one Herb........lol.

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i think you been smoking too much of that weed.

it enhances your imagination

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  One day I might be able to.....

[chuk_77]

He walked away, I didn't,

love it

[buzzlightyearsgirlfriend]

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@*pepe wrote:

i think its more a case of the police being fed up than sexist.

time and time again they go to the aid of women only to have most turn around and refuse to co operate when they try to charge the male.

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It must be frustrating for them. Unfortunately that is the reality. Many women don't realised they are being abused and, even if they do, they believe their abusers - "It won't happen again", "I'll get help, I'll change" blah blah blah.