After several hours during the week clearing and cleaning up a messy garden my day started like this
@azureline** wrote:A visit to the nursing home at some stage when dad arrives to collect little miss............ went yesterday and in his usual manner, my FIL popped into another residents room to visit, to which she strongly objected.
She told him to "get out you B***"
He turned and said "you are no lady"
I do wonder if people who lose their memory keep their real personality?
I watched something yesterday that links heart disease to dementia.
Az, I can't answer for all cases of dementia but in my father's case he turned from a gentle, tolerant, well mannered man into a rude, racist biggot. I was heartbroken to lose my gentle Dad and when I visited him in the nursing home I would seek out the nurses to apologise for his behaviour. He was quite happy to regale me with all the terrible things he said to the nurses.
Thankfully his nurses were very understanding and assured me that it was not uncommon for dementia patients to become like this....he was the polar opposite to what he had been before this cruel disease took hold.
The two nurses aids that really incurred his wrath were big burly Islanders who were the most gentle men you could ever meet. When either of them came to his room for any reason he refused to have anything to do with them, called them darkies and headhunters and was generally awful to them. I was eternally grateful to the Matron when she arranged for female nurses aids to get Dad ready for bed at night so as not to upset him. I was more worried about the two lovely men being abused!!
