Do you make new years resolutions?
Do you keep them?
I have 2 so far, swim more and read more books...
Anybody want to share theirs?
posted in another thread too - by mistake.....it is funny though! ......but so true!!LOL
@youcandoityoucandoityoucandoit wrote:Do you make new years resolutions?
Do you keep them?
I have 2 so far, swim more and read more books...
Anybody want to share theirs?
People as perfect as I am don't need to make resolutions as we don't need to change anything.
@youcandoityoucandoityoucandoit wrote:Have you ever tried to make your own beer? Or ginger beer?
Delicious....
I made ginger beer years ago.
Explosive would be the word to describe it. The kids had to go outside to take the cap off, and each time lost about one third of the contents over the neighbour's fence. I have a hankering to make it again actually.
@bright.ton42 wrote:
@youcandoityoucandoityoucandoit wrote:
Pepe, the last time I made a NYR, it was to keep away from unhappy passive aggressive types..omg HOW didja do it? Sometimes I think I wouldn't have any friends if I did that. lol. Maybe it's me, maybe I'm too good
a listener, but I swear on my teddy bear that I'm going to stop it.
lol bright
The thing is, when I made the resolution, I imagined it would work- instead I seemed to attract more of them to deal with!
There was 1 person in particular at work, she would seek me out- phone and email me to vent over and over..I like to think Im a good listener too, but this was completely stressful and negative. She seemed to have a problem with everyone in the company- except me and the boss. She would find fault with anything- seriously. eg- moaning about someones voice, their hairstyle, or how long it took them to return her calls..if there was really a problem I would offer a solution, but I couldnt have cared less about anything else.
I caught sight of myself having a 'conversation' with her and realised how tense I was..and decided that the next time she started venting, I would just say, calmly, 'well, what do you want to do about it?' it totally stopped her in her tracks.I kept it up though..I thought if I could bring her attention to the fact that she could control how she reacted to other people, she might change..I also stopped being so available to her..
Took time, but it seemed to work..she probably found someone else to vent to, but if the boss ever found out how much of her time on his clock she spent behaving like that...yikes.
I guess the thing is, people need to vent- some of them do it to relieve stress, some to make sense of something, but some vent instead of dealing- I swerve those people now..
