One in Three (or One in Two): The untold story of male victims of family/domestic violence

[4c4sale]

This is a seriously undertold story, and this website is a good place to learn the truth about the staggering number of male victims of domestic abuse in Australia:

http://www.oneinthree.com.au/

Men are MUCH less likely (three times less likely it seems) to report being battered and attacked by their female partners than women who are attacked by men, and further, men have less support if they do speak out.

Men may face scorn, derision and disbelief when they report being abused.

If one considers the vastly lower reporting of these incidents by men, and combines this with the higher number of women who abuse children, it arises that women - not men - are the majority domestic abusers in Australia, Great Britain and the United States.

Time to start spreading this truth, and working for change on BOTH sides of the gender equation.

[karliandjacko]

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@lloydslights wrote:

The topic is ....."male victims of family/domestic violence"

There is no denial that women may and do suffer from the disgraceful actions of others.  And support has grown for their plight.

Just as there is ongoing support for the reporting of children in similar circumstances.

We've become aware of workplace bullying.  And procedures for its discontinuation.

Most of us won't put up with animal abuse.

However, now is the time for the awareness of males being domestically violated.  

Actually, "violence" may be the wrong word; to me it implies only physical bashing.

Mental abuse can be far more damaging.  

Some women can be so cruel with their words.  Downtrodden males; nagged into depression; suppression;leading to suicide or lashing out physically at the one that is causing the pain.  (And consequently, leading to the media headlines of "Wife beaten to death by Husband" and subsequent "government-report-findings" being misrepresented.)

And sometimes these males murder their loved ones and then suicide.

The Men's Shed movement is accepted by us as legitimate assistance for males.

Let's align our compassion for abused males with that same compassion we should have for all human beings 

DEB

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Most of us don't condone violence against men and don't deny its existance.   The facts that can't be disputed are that women are much more likely to be on the receiving end of violence at the hands of men and more women are killed by men.

[thegoblinswillgetu]

A man would have less baggage, be more financially secure and have more opportunity to walk away from an abusive situation. A woman's chance for a safe window to make her escape would be limited. She probably depends on the man for money, and if there are children involved she would have to plan for their safety as well. Just saying, does not justify abuse of any type.

No links. 

[cherry*135]

The subject is male victims of domestic violence. We are able to challenge this statement though:
"If one considers the vastly lower reporting of these incidents by men, and combines this with the higher number of women who abuse children, it arises that women - not men - are the majority domestic abusers in Australia, Great Britain and the United States."

That is a pretty general statement especially including three different countries in it.

There is vastly lower reporting of domestic violence by women as well.

Really we can only compare the number of reported cases by both males and females.

June 2014
Australian Institute of Criminology

Victims’ experiences of short-and long-term safety and wellbeing: Findings from an examination of an integrated response to domestic violence

Foreword
One in three Australian women experience domestic violence at some point during their adult life and it is women and their children who typically suffer the most severe short and long-term consequences of this violence.

Backgound

Domestic violence is a serious and widespread phenomenon that continues to affect many women and their children in Australia and worldwide (WHO 2005). Domestic violence has been identified as the leading cause of physical injuries to women of reproductive age and a factor implicated in approximately 60 percent of Australian homicide cases involving a female victim (Shackelford & Mouzos 2005). With most incidents causing injuries being male to female perpetrated, women and their children are the ones suffering the most severe consequences when subjected to domestic violence (ABS 2012; Edleson 1999). In addition to the immediate physical and emotional impact on women and children, domestic violence further imposes an enormous financial burden on individual victims, as well as society at large.

[karliandjacko]

Another point the OP misses is that most often when women are violent the partner is also violent.

[siggie-reported-by-alarmists]

[katydidthat]

http://www.oneinthree.com.au/storage/pdfs/One_in_Three_Fact_Sheet_1.pdf

Siggie, I can't find a link to the source of that particular statistic that website. The above link is supposed to give sources ...

[cherry*135]

Homicides
• For the period July 2008 and June 2010, there were 510 homicide incidents recorded of which 122 were intimate partner homicides (Chan A & Payne J 2013, p.5). Women made up the large majority of these victims (73%; n=89) (p.19).

http://www.adfvc.unsw.edu.au/PDF%20files/Fast_Facts_9.pdf

[siggie-reported-by-alarmists]

[siggie-reported-by-alarmists]

Screen shots from the ABS website show women suffer more domestic violence than men.

I don't know how the OP has come the conclusion  that women are the major abusers.

[katydidthat]

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@karliandjacko wrote:

Another point the OP misses is that most often when women are violent the partner is also violent.

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I agree, Karli ... another issue is the degree of damage that can be done by most women to most men.