Pancreatic Cancer

[mybluestang]

It's a long time since I've posted, but I am desperate for any help and advice.

I am 53 and in September was diagnosed with Pancreatic Cancer.  I have had a whipple procedure which took 81/2 hours of surgery, but unfortunately, they were unable to remove all the cancer as it had attached itself to an artery.  This procedure was done in November and yet I am still feeling so unwell.

I have been to see an oncologist twice and I am due to start chemo in the next week.  Both times I have seen the oncologist, I have gone home and just cried and cried, as he has given me nothing positive to hold on too.

I am absolutely devastated by my diagnosis as they have told me they can't cure me and only 1 in 5 will get through to the end of chemo treatment.  I know everyone says to stay positive, but I have been given nothing positive to hold on to and I just can't stop crying. 

If you have been through this type of cancer and procedure, please post for me, I really need to talk to people who understand what I am going through and if what I am feeling is normal.

[sandypas]

[mbselections00]

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@sandypas wrote:

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Hi Deb,

Just letting you know we're all still here and thinking of you and sending thoughts and well wishes

(Sorry it's not as fancy as Sandy's)

[mybluestang]

Hi Freddie,

My sister is going to come with me when I have chemo.  Hopefully after the first week I can go on my own.  I really don't like to bother people if I can help it.  She has her own family to take care of.

[*mrgrizz*]

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@mybluestang wrote:

Hi Freddie,

My sister is going to come with me when I have chemo.  Hopefully after the first week I can go on my own.  I really don't like to bother people if I can help it.  She has her own family to take care of.

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you are her family

[the_great_she_elephant]

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@mybluestang wrote:

Hi Freddie,

My sister is going to come with me when I have chemo.  Hopefully after the first week I can go on my own.  I really don't like to bother people if I can help it.  She has her own family to take care of.

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Often at a time like this people really, really want to "bothered" - it makes them feel less helpless. At the same time they are often nervous about intruding or forcing their help on you, so they wait for you to ask..  

[mbselections00]

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@mybluestang wrote:

Hi Freddie,

My sister is going to come with me when I have chemo.  Hopefully after the first week I can go on my own.  I really don't like to bother people if I can help it.  She has her own family to take care of.

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Deb,

What the great she & mrgrizz said is so true - you are her family too

And very often at a time like this people really do not know what to do or say or how to act & they do feel helpless not knowing what to do for the best, so they wait for you to ask, which is why I said previously, don't be afraid to ask for help.  Crazy as this may sound, it is usually a very difficult emotional time for them also - not that I mean that to sound as though I am trying to detract in anyway from what you are experiencing, it's just sometimes in these situations people don't necessarily act the way we expect them to.

Don't under estimate the love and caring that surrounds you

And in case we don't catch up over the weekend, although we probably will, take care, remember to smile and the very best of luck with everything in Bendigo

[mbselections00]

  Thinking of you Deb

[bella_again]

Thinking of you here too Deb

[fourandsixpants]

Thinking of you bluestang.......(((((((hug)))))))

[mbselections00]

Hi,

Not sure when this week you're off to Bendigo, but thoughts are with you