Pregnancy ?

[22greggy22]

After the birth of my son 10 years ago , we struggled with fertility and had no luck falling pregnant . I'd pretty much given up that it just wasn't meant to be and decided to be grateful for the gorgeous son I have. Anyway 3 weeks ish ago I had a funny feeling I was pregnant and sure enough I was. I was so excited I cried happy tears all day . Since then tho it's been a bit of a roller coaster . I've had 3 blood tests to check everything is ok and 2 internal and 2 external ultrasounds. The results from the first tests were good. Hormone levels at 6000 and everything else normal. The first ultrasound showed a sac but nothing else could be seen . So they sent me for more blood tests which had a reading of 9000 hormone levels and my doc asked me to again go for a ultrasound . The guy who did my scan today didn't sound very positive , he can see nothing in the gestational sac, no heartbeat, the size hasn't changed much from my last scan. He all but said don't get your hopes up. Anyway I had another blood test today as my doc rang me Saturday to bring my appointment forward from Friday to today . This whole thing is making me a nervous wreck , I never had any of the probing or prodding in my last pregnancy. I really don't know what to think . I'm hoping someone on here can shed some light from experience and perhaps put my mind at ease .

[polksaladallie]

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@lloydslights wrote:

 Polksa,  from the information garnered from the quote above, I think greggy calls it a foetus because once it's called a baby it is too personal.  Suffering from the losses of loved ones, one tends to shield oneself from coming too close to anything that may involve an abandonment or death.

DEB

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I can see your point, but my opinion is that an impersonal and detached attitude is not compatible with a positive outcome.  Our thoughts are not separated from the responses of our bodies.  The mind and the body cannot be separated.  A positive attitude will have a profound effect on the body's physiological response.

And if anybody here thinks that I do not wish the OP the very best outcome, you could not be more wrong.

When I see the ad on the TV where everyone mauls the abdomen of the pregnant woman, I know that there is an urge to do that because it is simply a miracle that a new life is growing in that tummy.

[softail-joanie]

When I see the ad on the TV where everyone mauls the abdomen of the pregnant woman, I know that there is an urge to do that because it is simply a miracle that a new life is growing in that tummy.

Your right, however theres good reason why women who suspect they might be pregnant keep it to themselves until they are sure. Not only to protect the rest of the family, but themselves as well. Feedback from those who they tell, makes it all that much more real to them. It's a much harder blow on the suspected mother if it turns out to be not so, or if something happends to end the formation.

I think it's important to treat this as what it is, for now, a possibility, and let the op set the pace for discussion.

[green.fields]

Greggy I wish you all the best. Rest up and take care of yourself.

I was also told "go home, you are not pregnant" (after many years trying.) My son is now in his early 30's.

Some of the comments that have appeared here are not worthy of comment.

[dwilke33]

Have a funny story to share.

My daughters only child was almost 9 years old when she was pregnant again.  It wasn't that she wasn't pregnant earlier, but they ended in miscarriages.  This pregnancy was viable and she was so excited that God was going to let her have another child.

She had her second, and last child, another boy.

I recall when the oldest grandson was about 11 he told his mother that having this other boy was the worst thing that could have happened to him.  And, my daughter agreed!  She asked him if they should put the 2 year old up for auction on eBay for a million dollars?

Oldest grandson stated that no one would pay one million dollars for him, and if they did they would ask for a refund right away!

Oldest grandson is now 22 and in the Navy.  Youngest grandson is 13 years old.  They are the best of friends.  Absolutely the best!

[cmcoins2000]

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@dwilke33 wrote:

Have a funny story to share.

My daughters only child was almost 9 years old when she was pregnant again.  It wasn't that she wasn't pregnant earlier, but they ended in miscarriages.  This pregnancy was viable and she was so excited that God was going to let her have another child.

She had her second, and last child, another boy.

I recall when the oldest grandson was about 11 he told his mother that having this other boy was the worst thing that could have happened to him.  And, my daughter agreed!  She asked him if they should put the 2 year old up for auction on eBay for a million dollars?

Oldest grandson stated that no one would pay one million dollars for him, and if they did they would ask for a refund right away!

Oldest grandson is now 22 and in the Navy.  Youngest grandson is 13 years old.  They are the best of friends.  Absolutely the best!

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Good morning.

Obviously got no bids.

[dwilke33]

Forgot to post a photo of my grandsons......oldest and youngest....and only ones.  LOL  God has blessed our family.

[sandypas]

 polksaladallie, I am referring to no-one in particular, just those that are being negative.

The OP has enough concerns without reading some of the responses.

[lloydslights]

I respect your thoughts on this.  And generally agree wholeheartedly.  I don't believe here/now is the time to discuss this further.

I wish all the best to greggy and her family.

DEB

[polksaladallie]

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@sandypas wrote:

 polksaladallie, I am referring to no-one in particular, just those that are being negative.

The OP has enough concerns without reading some of the responses.

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Thank you.  I have spent almost all of my life caring for and loving babies, and I wish the very best for the OP. 

My thoughts were that positive thoughts are so important.