Pregnancy ?

[22greggy22]

After the birth of my son 10 years ago , we struggled with fertility and had no luck falling pregnant . I'd pretty much given up that it just wasn't meant to be and decided to be grateful for the gorgeous son I have. Anyway 3 weeks ish ago I had a funny feeling I was pregnant and sure enough I was. I was so excited I cried happy tears all day . Since then tho it's been a bit of a roller coaster . I've had 3 blood tests to check everything is ok and 2 internal and 2 external ultrasounds. The results from the first tests were good. Hormone levels at 6000 and everything else normal. The first ultrasound showed a sac but nothing else could be seen . So they sent me for more blood tests which had a reading of 9000 hormone levels and my doc asked me to again go for a ultrasound . The guy who did my scan today didn't sound very positive , he can see nothing in the gestational sac, no heartbeat, the size hasn't changed much from my last scan. He all but said don't get your hopes up. Anyway I had another blood test today as my doc rang me Saturday to bring my appointment forward from Friday to today . This whole thing is making me a nervous wreck , I never had any of the probing or prodding in my last pregnancy. I really don't know what to think . I'm hoping someone on here can shed some light from experience and perhaps put my mind at ease .

[tcmsecretuseid]

Hurray, greggy. I wish you luck. Giving the fetus time to form sounds like a good idea to me. 

I am laughing at the people who are saying that having a second baby is ruining the planet. So, what is the option.... don't have any children, and then have no humans living on the planet in 100 years? LOL. 

I'm all for being aware of the environment, and protecting the resources. I don't think having this precious gift is going to tip the scales, and ruin the planet. 

[softail-joanie]

Thanks for your update. Still too soon to tell, and I wouldn't put much stock in early tests. Waiting awhile is the best thing, and taking care of yourself, this means being calm, thats probibly the biggest challenge as i can't imagine how exited and worked up i would be. My best wishes goes out to you and, hopefully your little one who might show up in time.

[*pepe]

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@iapetus_rocks wrote:

You have a son and he's 10 years old? Have you asked him how he would feel about having a new little brother or sister arrive to usurp his position?

Would he be jealous? would he suffer some sort of mental breakdown if he couldn't handle the transfer of your attentions?

It's not only your wants and wishes you need to consider. You are already lucky in that you have a child. To want and to have another baby may send your son the signal that he is not enough. Please be careful.

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sorry but WHAT????

since when do children get to make the decision of adding to the family?

That is just ridiculous.

A s a rule a parent does not transfer their attention from one child to another either, they share the attention where it is needed.

[22greggy22]

Not going into this too deeply but my mum died when I was 11 and I was essentially an orphan . I was taken away from whatever family I had left at 13 and had a dreadful childhood living with a person who hated my very existence . I've been working and standing on my 2 feet since I was 16 and I've done alright for myself
As do my son he is the most caring, compassionate and giving little 10 yr old I know. I couldn't be prouder of him. He has wanted a baby for as long as I can remember ( brother if it was up to him lol ) and I know he will be wonderful with a baby if we are lucky enough to be blessed. I don't have very much family at all and I have so much love to give . We have looked into fostering ,even if it's on a respite weekend basis but we are waiting till my son is a little older as it's hard to get attached to people who may leave your life at any time .

[polksaladallie]

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@22greggy22 wrote:
Thanks for your well wishes 🙂
It's been up and down the last few days , yesterday was pretty hard but today it's looking up a bit. The ultra sound said it hadn't detected anything positive and the report said it looks like an unviable pregnancy . Then I had more bloodwork which came back with higher hormone levels so now I have to go for another ultrasound.
My husband and I have decided to wait two weeks to give the fetus enough time to form so that it should show on the ultrasound so that I'm not getting disappointed by a scan that may be too early to detect anything .
Started to get morning sickness and indigestion which I think is a good sign.
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Fingers and everything else crossed.

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The fetus?   Not "our baby"?

[sandypas]

I can't believe some people.  A new life is a gift, a blessing and this one sounds very wanted.  I think some of these comments show the personality of the poster.

I only have 2 grandies and there is 7 years between them.  They both get on wondefully but as someone said, the love is shared and they make sure the older one gets as much attention as the youngest.

Good luck greggy - I hope you have a safe and wonderful pregnancy ending with a gorgeous new life.

[polksaladallie]

Are you referring to me with your first comments?

[freddie*rooster]

I share the sentiments of Sandy.

Good luck greggy - I hope you have a safe and wonderful pregnancy ending with a gorgeous new life.

[lloydslights]

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@22greggy22 wrote:
Not going into this too deeply but my mum died when I was 11 and I was essentially an orphan . I was taken away from whatever family I had left at 13 and had a dreadful childhood living with a person who hated my very existence . I've been working and standing on my 2 feet since I was 16 and I've done alright for myself
As do my son he is the most caring, compassionate and giving little 10 yr old I know. I couldn't be prouder of him. He has wanted a baby for as long as I can remember ( brother if it was up to him lol ) and I know he will be wonderful with a baby if we are lucky enough to be blessed. I don't have very much family at all and I have so much love to give . We have looked into fostering ,even if it's on a respite weekend basis but we are waiting till my son is a little older as it's hard to get attached to people who may leave your life at any time .

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 Polksa,  from the information garnered from the quote above, I think greggy calls it a foetus because once it's called a baby it is too personal.  Suffering from the losses of loved ones, one tends to shield oneself from coming too close to anything that may involve an abandonment or death.

DEB

[dwilke33]

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@22greggy22 wrote:
Not going into this too deeply but my mum died when I was 11 and I was essentially an orphan . I was taken away from whatever family I had left at 13 and had a dreadful childhood living with a person who hated my very existence . I've been working and standing on my 2 feet since I was 16 and I've done alright for myself
As do my son he is the most caring, compassionate and giving little 10 yr old I know. I couldn't be prouder of him. He has wanted a baby for as long as I can remember ( brother if it was up to him lol ) and I know he will be wonderful with a baby if we are lucky enough to be blessed. I don't have very much family at all and I have so much love to give . We have looked into fostering ,even if it's on a respite weekend basis but we are waiting till my son is a little older as it's hard to get attached to people who may leave your life at any time .

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Hugs to you, greggy.  I pray you have a delightful outcome to your pregnancy.  You deserve only the best wishes.