Someone's Mum has been found

[cherples]

Hopefully her family want to find her too

Decades of living on the street and abuse at the hands of those she loved made Noeline McCarron wonder if she could keep going. Then someone offered her a helping hand.

Leaning on a floral-print umbrella like a cane, Noeline McCarron hobbles towards a couch and sits quietly.

She has a slight hunch in her back and leans forward as she sits.

In her left hand she's clasping onto a trucker hat. A tropical shower looms outside as dark clouds gather and she's come prepared.

Thongs expose her battered feet which peek out from the bottom of a long black dress.

Her skin is worn and she speaks slowly, punctuating her words with a husky, persistent cough.

At 53, specks of grey are starting to emerge through her thick brown hair which she keeps short.

Now 16 months sober, Noeline says her senses are coming back to her.

She can smell and taste again and is observing things she had never seen before. More importantly, her state of mind is the best it has ever been.

"I'm enjoying everything," she says. "Getting up without a hangover, looking around and seeing four walls. I'm doing something I can be proud of."

Noeline moved to Australia in 1981, migrating from the North Island of New Zealand.

She married soon after and started a family in Sydney's western suburbs with her husband.

But the relationship didn't last.

"Things just didn't work out," she says.

"It's hard for me to say but I had to abandon my children to get out of domestic violence.

"I just ended up roaming anywhere."

the story continues at

http://www.abc.net.au/local/stories/2013/03/09/3711884.htm?site=farnorth

[izabsmiling]

even if she had to abandon the kids to escape domestic violence which in the 1980s was not a hard thing to do with lots of help from center link and woman's shelter and advisory groups that were around then, it doesn't explain why she didn't do something with her life in the last 30 years. 

Wasn't it ?

It can be hard enough now...women do get threats that are unfortunately carried out about what will happen to them and the kids if they leave or even try to leave.

and unfortunately the police can't always respond to a call in time .Even knowing that is frightening even to someone who hasn't been emotionally and physically abused.

[belmccarron]

im not too sure on how to use this site,but this is actually my husbands mum we came across the article this morning trying to find his mum,we are now trying to get in contact with her.

[bluecat*dancing]

Wow!  That is such good news. I hope that you are able to make contact soon.

[belmccarron]

thank you we hope so too a few of the siblings are onto it as we type ringin numbers etc though all organizations are closed till monday unfortunately,

[polocross58]

That's a nice post, Lionrose

You have a good heart

[polocross58]

**** very common for people with high expectations of themselves to also have those expectations in others...  ***

True.  And I think many of us are guilty of it

Someone posted something a week or so ago.  It might have been here on the boards

Basically the voice of God telling us we don't know what storms He'd required the person to walk through, so we shouldn't judge

I thought it was a great sentiment

We're all different.  All have different abilities and internal resources.  What we might be able to achieve might be out of the question for someone else -- if we just stop to think of it in that light

[polocross58]

I'm reading a book at the moment (The Amazing Trevors) about a couple from New Zealand who assumed the Trevor surname after eloping in 1891.  She was a married mother of four, aged 40.  He was 24.  They moved to Australia.  She left a husband and her four children back in NZ

The Trevors lived hand to mouth for many years and suffered untold hardships.  For example, they travelled 1800 miles in a small rowboat, travelling from Bourke to Albury when the Murray and Darling were in flood.  They lived off the land, sketched and camped, finally to gain some form of financial comfort late in life

Mrs Trevor lived to her mid 90's, outliving her much younger husband.  To the end, she succeeded in obscuring the details of her birth and first marriage, etc.

Some would judge her harshly.  After all, she deserted her own four children and husband.  But we see it only from our limited perspective, here on the ground, whereas those with experience of precognition know that what will be will be, because it was meant to be.  Perhaps Mrs Trevor's children were fated to experience certain hardships and heartbreak at a young age.  Who knows why?  Maybe it was in order they could redeem a karmic debt, or perhaps it was to prepare them for events further along in their lives

In the news right now, scientists are claiming our lives are merely three dimensional reflections of a two dimensional world elsehwere (they propose this other dimension exists within one or more black-holes).  If this is the case (as suggested also by precognition) it means we're merely echoes or ghosts of events which have already taken place elsewhere.  Simplified even further, our current lives - although they seem real to us - may be no more substantial than our reflections in a mirror.  So, if you cut your face in front of a mirror, you wouldn't judge your reflection or hold it responsible.  Maybe it's the same with those around us who behave in a way we don't approve of.  We could even go further and pity them for the hand Life dealt them and forced them to live out ?

[kengillard]

any suggested reading on that concept Polo?   the other dimension i.e.?   I find it fascinating and quite plausible.

[mugssy65]

Yes Iza. From my own first hand experience it was much easier back then.
With prof of domestic physical violence I was able to escape with my children. I was given full custody and never had to have contact with him again. Now I know people will scream about his rights to his children but I had a right to live didn't I?

[azureline**]

Yes you did, the children had a right to a life too! His rights he forfeited.