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Through the roof! 😞
Yesterday while I was at work, the neighbour across the road came over to tell my grandmother (at my house babysitting 13 month old) that there are roof tiles lifted and a big hole that will let in a lot of the rain forecast for the afternoon!?!?
She had a look and it was pretty easy to see. At the front of the house.
Luckily my BIL is a builder and once I'd had the phone calls at work, my sis phoned her hubby to pop over and check it out.
He said that tiles had been pulled off enough to let a person slip through! He replaced the tiles and sealed some cracked ones next to the removed ones.
About 20 mins later we had a quick but heavy downpour of rain so happy that he fixed it.....
But now I'm worried! Why would someone want to come in through the roof? It's pretty open at the front of the house, surely a would-be thief would go around the back where it's less open and break in through a window or back glass door?
I had trouble sleeping last night, and feel very uneasy today 😕
I'm home now til Mon, need to speak to neighbours and go to local Police station to make a report.
Yesterday while I was at work, the neighbour across the road came over to tell my grandmother (at my house babysitting 13 month old) that there are roof tiles lifted and a big hole that will let in a lot of the rain forecast for the afternoon!?!?
She had a look and it was pretty easy to see. At the front of the house.
Luckily my BIL is a builder and once I'd had the phone calls at work, my sis phoned her hubby to pop over and check it out.
He said that tiles had been pulled off enough to let a person slip through! He replaced the tiles and sealed some cracked ones next to the removed ones.
About 20 mins later we had a quick but heavy downpour of rain so happy that he fixed it.....
But now I'm worried! Why would someone want to come in through the roof? It's pretty open at the front of the house, surely a would-be thief would go around the back where it's less open and break in through a window or back glass door?
I had trouble sleeping last night, and feel very uneasy today 😕
I'm home now til Mon, need to speak to neighbours and go to local Police station to make a report.
I don't think I will get to the bottom of this 😞
All I can do is be cautious, add safety measures around the property, this weekend I'm organising the manhole bolt, trailer lock, and look into sec cams etc...
my gut feeling is not to be scared ( weird I guess), I've played it down to the teens. If it was The ex I think he would've done it to scare me into needing him to be here more or even stay. It has happened a week after we'd had a serious talk about not reconciling I've given NO signals at al, since last July to him that I want to work things out. If he thinks otherwise, it is in his head! He only moved out in Nov, and things were really awful in the first weeks/ months brut seemed better lately.
The visitation is much more structured and we are less involved in knowing about the other ones life. He is fairly good with the baby so would prob be able to take her out in the day, but I don't think he wants, he just comes and plays for 1-2 hr, if she needs a bath or a feed during his time here he will do it when prompted. He spends a lot less time these days, his choice.
In response to the 'what went wrong in the relationship' question....
It has never been a healthy relationship, he is a manipulator and in the 3 other times (in 7 err relationship) id left him he'd always be able to talk his way back in.
I think it's the lifestyle rather than 'me' that he doesn't want to lose as he has come from a very dodgy background and myself and my family have given him access to a very cruisy/ comfortable life!
i let a lot of things go in the marriage, but when his treatment of my kids started becoming poor, and many other things that I became less tolerant to, I had to stop the cycle and get out for good.
He has a general disrespect for women (I can see why after meeting his family), money issues were huge with him never wanting to spend his money but happily use mine for dinners/ outings/ trips etc...
His excuse for EVERYTHING he would do (from kitchen fire, car smash, rude speaking to us all, no interest in ever going out/ socialising, blatant laziness in n around the house) "IM TIRED"
I just couldn't accept this any longer. His tiredness made my life so much more stressful...
The difference this time was that I told my family how much I was manipulated in the relationship, so help me break cycle not just for me, but for my kids.
I could give dozens of actual examples, end of the day...... Life is short, I deserve to be happy and so do my children.
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Hi Kylie, Did you notice any windows slightly open around that time ? I'm just wondering if someone could come in that way .. and perhaps leave a window slightly unlocked/open for better/easier access at a later date ?
No open or unlocked windows. My nan checked on the day and I have been rechecking each day since.
i don't believe someone actually got inside my house.
OT but #85 now you are giving advice on things you have no idea about. It's the children's rights the court looks at, and what is best for them, not the parents.
I have been trying to work with him to benefit our child. He knows that I think that fathers should play a big role in their kids lives (when safe) as my 2 teens dad died when they were 5 & 7 y/o.
So far we have not gone through the courts. But have the visitation nearly on track, and also child support.
I know he will be a much better father this way, when he lived here he barely came near her.... 9 months little interest. Once he had to live elsewhere he became hands on and wanting to be with her. She loves the time together.
this is probably something that you have already considered and checked - do you have neighbours with security cameras that could have captured anything?
unfortunately no-one has cameras. it's not a great area, probably should have them!
I would recommend after letting the police know is getting yourself a good watch dog.My dogs can hear noises and movements long before we can.And cameras also.Terrible to think just what people will do.
that is a good suggestion, however I'm a bit scared of dogs, never had them.
i have 2 old cats who live under back pergola prob die of a heart attack if a dog came to live! (Or he might eat them!) and I'd be petrified for my 1 y/o not being able to go into backyard safely with a dog.
