Tolerance

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Be-Tolerant


Tim Vann 




'Bullying may be defined as the activity of repeated, aggressive behavior intended to hurt another person, physically or mentally. Bullying is characterized by an individual behaving in a certain way to gain power over another person.'





'I am not bullied as an adult. I do not bully as an adult. I know it happens though. People are being ignored, insulted, and mentally tortured by their adult peers. Bullying does not stop in high school, and adults can be just as cruel and mean as teenagers. But one is not supposed to be bullied as an adult; one should be able to deal with criticism. Grow some backbone. Not take it so seriously.



What I believe to be the root of bullying evil is the feeling of superiority we have. My belief is better than your belief. My country is better than your country. My political views are better than yours. If you do not believe what I believe, you are stupid and wrong. And I can tell the whole world you are stupid. Freedom of speech and so on. And teach my children that people that hold different views are stupid. “But my children are not bullies. Not my children. They are respectful and tolerant, just like me.” Right….



Bullying happens when someone is different in the eyes of the bully. Is a threat. If the bully wants to feel better about himself and attacks someone that cannot fend for him/herself.. Bullying is not restricted to the school or sports we use to go to. Is has nothing to do with age.



But I suppose that the once you have been bullied, you will always remember your first bullies. How hard and unfair it was. Arbitrarily even in most cases. Because you had glasses or funny teeth. The memory and pain will always stay with you. I hope you are being treated better now.



I hope that one day there will be no more bullying. But that is not enough for me. No more racism. No more religious battles fought with real bombs and guns. No more intolerance towards gays and lesbians.



It takes more to make better world. A lot more. From everybody. And not only after your cried about a teenage suicide. All the time. Developed yourself. Learn about a different culture. Accept differences. Because if you will not, I bet your children will neither.'

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chuk_77
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thats exactly it amethyst,

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I think the most important thing is that people know the limits and consquences of their own behaviour and accept that how they behave does and will affect other people....how much that does is not up to them to judge or decide (especially when it reaches a criminal level) and implying their victim is weak both enables,empowers and excuses their behaviour.


That we all remember that all people have the same rights and responsibilities we have.




Iza, what exactly are you trying to say to us? if you feel you are being unfairly targetted by other posters for goodness sake come out and say so - don't beat around the bush with long, rambling generalisations.



Yes cyber bullying can be a problem for teenagers and parents should teach them how to deal with it, but I'm sure posters here who have teenage kids are already very well aware of this need - lets face it it's been discussed on these boards ad nauseam.



Yes, online harassment which spills over into real life, e.g. stalking, abusive phone calls, anonymous letters or phone calls to employers or government agencies etc. are not only morally wrong but illegal and should be reported to the police - again, not rocket science and something we all know already.



'So called 'bullying' on the Ebay boards, however, is usually nothing more than silly, spiteful remarks, posted by silly, spiteful people sitting anonymously behind a computer. Unless their comments are defamatory and liable to cause harm in real life they can't possible hurt you unless you choose to let them do so - and are certainly not worth long over-earnest discussions.



I currently have several posters on ignore, simply because I found their inane comments on one particular thread were becoming increasingly irritating. when I have stopped feeling irritated I shall unignore them again. Problem solved and no-one needs to feel offended.

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I have had the OP  bump old threads I have posted on and leave snide remarks, bring up comments from other threads which are totally unrelated to the discussion topic, seen personal digs made, when I have questioned these with the person concerned... no reply ever given.


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Therefore I have no sympathy for people who do exactly what they are accusing/inferring that others do to them.

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chuk_77
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she'll be around at some time. I'll ask her when she comes back on

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Maybe dinner time where she lives?

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**meep**
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A bully or a troll?


 


Trolls are fairly harmless, just don't feed them unless you feel like an argument 


 


 


True!!

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I used to own chooks. I had about 30 in a big chook house with a long run. There was always one chook who got picked on by the boss chooks. If I moved the victim chookie to its own area to keep it safe, the boss chooks would very soon find another chook to pick on. It was like they thrived on picking on one chook, and didn't really care which one it was, as long as there was one. 



Sometimes I would feed them some treats so I'd return the victim chookie to the flock so they could all share, but it never worked out satisfactorily. As soon as the boss group noticed the victim, they'd tear across the pen and start pecking it. Even the treats couldn't distract them 😞 



in the end, I decided the only answer was to remove the boss chook group to their own area. They sulked and scrabbled about for a day or two, but pretty soon they found one of their own to peck... 

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chuk_77
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you could very well be right az

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Lol!!

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