Tolerance

[izabsmiling]

http://betolerant.wordpress.com/

Be-Tolerant

Tim Vann 

'Bullying may be defined as the activity of repeated, aggressive behavior intended to hurt another person, physically or mentally. Bullying is characterized by an individual behaving in a certain way to gain power over another person.'

'I am not bullied as an adult. I do not bully as an adult. I know it happens though. People are being ignored, insulted, and mentally tortured by their adult peers. Bullying does not stop in high school, and adults can be just as cruel and mean as teenagers. But one is not supposed to be bullied as an adult; one should be able to deal with criticism. Grow some backbone. Not take it so seriously.

What I believe to be the root of bullying evil is the feeling of superiority we have. My belief is better than your belief. My country is better than your country. My political views are better than yours. If you do not believe what I believe, you are stupid and wrong. And I can tell the whole world you are stupid. Freedom of speech and so on. And teach my children that people that hold different views are stupid. “But my children are not bullies. Not my children. They are respectful and tolerant, just like me.” Right….

Bullying happens when someone is different in the eyes of the bully. Is a threat. If the bully wants to feel better about himself and attacks someone that cannot fend for him/herself.. Bullying is not restricted to the school or sports we use to go to. Is has nothing to do with age.

But I suppose that the once you have been bullied, you will always remember your first bullies. How hard and unfair it was. Arbitrarily even in most cases. Because you had glasses or funny teeth. The memory and pain will always stay with you. I hope you are being treated better now.

I hope that one day there will be no more bullying. But that is not enough for me. No more racism. No more religious battles fought with real bombs and guns. No more intolerance towards gays and lesbians.

It takes more to make better world. A lot more. From everybody. And not only after your cried about a teenage suicide. All the time. Developed yourself. Learn about a different culture. Accept differences. Because if you will not, I bet your children will neither.'

[**meep**]

Crikey, could you give me an example of behaviour that would provoke or deserve bullying?

[*crikey*mate*]

i do get the feeling, that deep down, or maybe not so deep, someone knows exactly what Iza is trying to say. 

well, whoever that is, do you reckon you could get em to say it in 25 words or less?

[**meep**]

well, whoever that is, do you reckon you could get em to say it in 25 words or less?

I could ask them, if i knew who they were.

[poison_ivys_pen]

I absolutely agree with you Meep, people standing by and watching bullying without stepping in is the same as bullying

Absolutely agree with that statement.

It reminds me of something my mother drummed into me "It's one thing to see evil being done it's another to stand by and allow it to be done"

I know you've been through the wringer on these boards Trish but you've never let it stop you coming back here, you're one brave lady I think at times and a lot braver than others.

[*crikey*mate*]

Crikey, could you give me an example of behaviour that would provoke or deserve bullying?

I don't believe anything ever deserves bullying so to speak, though I do stand by an earlier comment I made saying if you dish it out then you do need to be prepared to take it when it's given back.

but one example of behaviour that may provoke bullying is diplaying a socially unacceptable trait.

For example: when I first started law school I was pretty excited and used to post heaps of indepth legal stuff. I was just excited and would get carried away, but others here didn't like it and commented on it heaps and often very rudely.

So, now I try not to do that. Sometimes I fail, but I do try to minimize the opportunities that I give to others for "bullying" (used loosely) me about it.

[poison_ivys_pen]

Kids that are being bullied should never have any of the blame put on themselves.  I think that is a poor approach and one that is used sometimes by schools.

Instead of dealing with the bully, they move the victim.

Ed zachery, spot on Joono.

[**meep**]

 What other reason is there why the OP never gets to the point?

don't you know what happens people who name names? :^O

i shouldn't laugh, i know....just remembered another Seinfeld episode...

[*crikey*mate*]

Kids that are being bullied should never have any of the blame put on themselves.  I think that is a poor approach and one that is used sometimes by schools.

Instead of dealing with the bully, they move the victim.

actually that scenario wasn't on my mind, and I have had one child who was badly bullied for a few years in Primary School, cos he's a bit different to most other kids. It was only by a few kids and the rest of his cohort were brilliant with him, but those few boys made life very hard for a while.

I was thinking about a recent occurence when I wrote that.

My son can't tie his shoe l;aces, so he has colarado velcro sandals for casual shoes. Apparently so does the school principal and a few kids were giving him a bit of flack over it.

It upset him for quite a while apparently, so once he told me, I took him and a friend shopping so we could buy him a pair of shoes that would help him to fit in better.

It solved the problem. 

[joz*garage]

Meep, there used to be a time you could get away with not mentioning names. The mods got stricker somewhere around about the time the forum changed. 

[azureline**]

I could ask them, if i knew who they were.

so, you don't know who they are? but you know there is someone who knows?

I am confused.....