Tolerance

[izabsmiling]

http://betolerant.wordpress.com/

Be-Tolerant

Tim Vann 

'Bullying may be defined as the activity of repeated, aggressive behavior intended to hurt another person, physically or mentally. Bullying is characterized by an individual behaving in a certain way to gain power over another person.'

'I am not bullied as an adult. I do not bully as an adult. I know it happens though. People are being ignored, insulted, and mentally tortured by their adult peers. Bullying does not stop in high school, and adults can be just as cruel and mean as teenagers. But one is not supposed to be bullied as an adult; one should be able to deal with criticism. Grow some backbone. Not take it so seriously.

What I believe to be the root of bullying evil is the feeling of superiority we have. My belief is better than your belief. My country is better than your country. My political views are better than yours. If you do not believe what I believe, you are stupid and wrong. And I can tell the whole world you are stupid. Freedom of speech and so on. And teach my children that people that hold different views are stupid. “But my children are not bullies. Not my children. They are respectful and tolerant, just like me.” Right….

Bullying happens when someone is different in the eyes of the bully. Is a threat. If the bully wants to feel better about himself and attacks someone that cannot fend for him/herself.. Bullying is not restricted to the school or sports we use to go to. Is has nothing to do with age.

But I suppose that the once you have been bullied, you will always remember your first bullies. How hard and unfair it was. Arbitrarily even in most cases. Because you had glasses or funny teeth. The memory and pain will always stay with you. I hope you are being treated better now.

I hope that one day there will be no more bullying. But that is not enough for me. No more racism. No more religious battles fought with real bombs and guns. No more intolerance towards gays and lesbians.

It takes more to make better world. A lot more. From everybody. And not only after your cried about a teenage suicide. All the time. Developed yourself. Learn about a different culture. Accept differences. Because if you will not, I bet your children will neither.'

[izabsmiling]

That is not that case VS .

Oh and I may type differently depending on my mood or how much time I have...and sometimes I remember how different people have told me to post lol.

All the posts with my ID were made by me.

[j*oono]

Vintage, if my encouragement to Iza to continue posting even though some are quite unwelcoming towards her then yes, maybe I have egged her on.  I have no problem with that.

[vintage-star]

So now you all ask questions!!.... Lol....and expect answers??

Yeah right!!

[azureline**]

I have asked questions before, if I don't understand a post, I ask.

I don't know Iza any more than I know you VS.

[*crikey*mate*]

Types of bullying

Bullies may use one or several types of bullying to hurt their victim.

Physical - pushing, shoving, punching, hitting, kicking, taking away a person's belongings (this may also constitute assault).

Verbal - name calling, banter, threatening, teasing, intimidating, yelling abuse, using put-downs.

Psychological - ganging up, preventing a person from going somewhere, taking a person's possessions, sending hostile or nasty emails or text messages.

Socially - excluding, alienating, ignoring, spreading rumours.

I was just thinking about this again...

I've already touched on the ignore feature provided by eBay, but now I am wondering about the section in "Socially" - "Excluding".....

If a person wanted to join one of the private groups here on eBay, if their application was not successful and they were purposely excluded from that group, would this be a form of bullying?

[debra9275]

Tolerance ~ a little bit of it goes a long way IMO

[poison_ivys_pen]

Oh and I may type differently depending on my mood or how much time I have...and sometimes

You know now Iza you saying that some may think you hit the bottle before you post heaven forbid, which reminds me since it's so hot I might go buy some beer.

I made a post on a thread several weeks ago and it was inferred indirectly without naming me by someone that it wasn't myself posting that post, hate to disappoint them but incorrect 😄

[debra9275]

It's amazing how a little to and fro can turn that frown upside down!!

I am sure the OP wouldn't have so much discomfort if she wasn't egged on by her friends!.... This of course results in a spiral which requires dissection and the eminent rescue and commiseration!!

It is a pattern!...... I see it constantly.

what nonsense!

[azureline**]

If a person wanted to join one of the private groups here on eBay, if their application was not successful and they were purposely excluded from that group, would this be a form of bullying?

How does one even know about these private groups? to be applying?

I would say no.... not bullying.... unless they are discussing you in there and you know about it. however, since it is private, how would you know?

[everything*that*i*ever*wanted]

Hello everyone,

Joz, I made a 'joke'....on your thread.

My sister who has no legs...makes jokes about being legless and shoe salesmen.It's harder for other people to hear I think than it is for her.That is her reality.She's cool with it...she just wishes everyone else would be too.

I'm OK with being a carer.It is part of my life and the life of my family.Yes, there can be difficulties...that's the way it is.

If any one else feels uncomfortable with that fact and they think by my even mentioning anything about it I am whinging or anything else or it is hard for you to hear about...please don't read.I have a disabled son and sister (currently in a nursing home) ...that's just my reality just as whatever your life is is yours.I will not hide it away and be made to feel my life is not acceptable because it is different to yours.

CM, It is interesting that you should say having a socially unacceptable trait encourages bullying (that's why we live away from other people...my eldest son) .

An interest in Law may very well be developed for personal reasons...say when someone was a CW for a VOC.

I think you are well aware of how people may react to various things....

Az pretty spot on..

I thought this could be discussed as a general topic.

I do or at least attempt to discuss other things .:-)

And that is why I come back here. My feelings exactly !