W'hy Can't Anyone Do Something????

[kengillard]

My neighbour needs medical help.  

[bella_again]

Unfortunately because she isn't a clear risk to her self they can't easily section her or force services on her. Would she accept home help services?  If they can get a foot in the door they are able to take notes and start the ball rolling in regard to services if she is at risk.  They can also do some transporting for her.  Sounds like you did the right thing Gill its not easy sometimes is it.  But you have a lot on your plate so while its lovely that you are a caring person, look after you and yours too xxx

[azureline**]

I am almost scared to ask... Gill, what is a bint?

[kengillard]

a dh?   idiot? p ick etc.

[kengillard]

she wont let anyone in her house...why?   I had to go in there with Police permission and bring her 2 dogs to my place after they'd been shut in a bedroom for a  day and a night while she lay on the concrete...her place is like something out of Hoarders.  boxes of stuff and plastic bags full of stuff on every horizontal surface.   so no one is allowed to go in there. she says

[polksaladallie]

She probably has money lying around or hidden.  Tell her son that and he will come.  If he doesn't, well it will disappear.  Poof!

[kengillard]

you could be right.   my MIL had $3000 in $20 notes hidden under a chair!

[azureline**]

My FIL had $2500 under his mattress. One of his children took it when he went to the nursing home. Unsure which of 2 it was.

[buzzlightyearsgirlfriend]

I recall kengillard saying she was an alcoholic.

Alcoholics and addicts will do ANYTHING to protect their need to drink/use. They will lie, cheat and steal. Baldfaced lies to your face.

One I used to know went MIA for about 3 hours once. Returned drunk as a skunk. They told me that they were in Woolies for 3 hours and got lost because Woolies had changed all the shelves around and they couldn't find what they wanted to buy    

[cherry*135]

I think she doesn't want to get cut of from her alcohol supply if she goes to into hospital or retirement home or home-help is employed to help her with housework and shopping.

Either that or she is just a cantankerous person who wont accept reality.

Gill.. you have to start saying. to her.. there are Govt services available to help you neighbour, can I look into those for you?.. I have my own health to look after and visit and do stuff for my OH who is in the retirement home.

If this was me, for a start I would phone the medical centre her Dr is in. Tell them how she is living (hoarded house) and that she isn't safe in her own home..falls over and can't get up, pets she can't care for. See if they can help in anyway.

[kengillard]

I've already done that.  Her doc. is my doc.  just had a phone call from her son.  he's doing his best.  is ringing the hospital she was in about 2 weeks ago to try and get a prognosis.  seems like it's walking through mud...no one will help

my/her doctor he has rung and she wouldnt' tell him anything.  can't understand that.  will ring doc tomorrow and find out why?