Gil, I have been reading this thread and feeling your pain. There are people in this world who CARE and people who don't. You care, I care. However, there is absolutely nothing you can do. I know from experience, only it was my own father. My three sisters, could not, because of distance, or would not, help. And didn't want to hear the truth of his circumstance. My worst fear came true, when, locked in his house, (deadlocks) fell asleep in front of the tv, dinner on the stove caused house fire. He couldn't escape because he had locked the doors.I don't need to spell out the result. I had had all the things done already suggested on this thread, ACAT, psych assessment, meals on wheels, homehelp etc.. There was not one more thing I could have done, and i was his daughter! One never recovers from this, but help is at hand.....FOR YOU.
Please do this....go to your GP, tell him/her how this is affecting you. You have enough to deal with, with your own OH. Ask for the free number of visits (can't remember if its 6 or 😎 to a local psychologist. These have to be referred,but It is an available service to everyone.
Please....you will be amazed how a "third party" can give you so much personal insight into any problem, this current one being a biggie, and can assist in giving you ways to handle the situation. As I said, YOU can't help the neighbour, you need to have the tools to learn how you handle it, its not going to magically disappear. Its not as if you can suddenly move. Maybe continue to do those things like feed chooks and animals for the moment, this is not an instant fix, but please, again, put yourself first.
You are a very compassionate person, and that person knows it!
