What Do You Expect Your Family

[grandmoon]

to do with your Treasures and possessions after you die??

I was asked this today by a friend who is very upset the her Son in law has told her he will send all of her to the tip.

[the_hawk*]

Most peoples special things are only special or value to them because they have memories attached to them.

The best way to make sure your wishes are granted is to give the special things you treasue is to give them to the people that have expressed interest in them while you are alive.

[lurker17260]

I agree hawk. My mum has already started giving away things that are special (not necessarily valuable) for eg I now have the remaining vase of a pair she had for many years. I broke the other playing tennis in the lounge room! No one else would understand the value if that vase but to me it is priceless 🙂

[**meep**]

Honestly, I do not care what happens to it after I'm gone.

[i-once-was-bump]

Goodness, my sister and I will be fighting over a mirror and neither of us want anything else.

[topsidesoul]

Usually what happens is they fight amongst each other for them.

In my case they slide in real close  while the parent is in hospital dosed with heavy painkillers and chemo drugs and bring in a dodgy laywer to sign them over as executor of the will and take almost everything.

Years later and lots of money and you end up with only their laywer brought infront of the legal board .....

I hear that happening allot, people are horrible so I will be buried with everyhting in  a pyramid!

[the_great_she_elephant]

Once I'm dead I won't know or care what anyone does with my 'treasures,' so I'm not going to waste what's left of my life stressing about it.

[acacia_pycnantha]

All my money and goods will be left to "The Home for Traumatised Ebayers", you know, those sellers who suffer nervous breakdowns  and PTSD psychosis . . . oh, and those buyers whose remorse causes them to also suffer irretreivable mental breakdown. 🙂

Maybe the "Home for Traumatised Paypallers" might get a few bucks as well.

[azureline**]

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@grandmoon wrote:

to do with your Treasures and possessions after you die??

I was asked this today by a friend who is very upset the her Son in law has told her he will send all of her to the tip.

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why is she leaving it to her son in law then?

[spotweldersfriend]

Send all of her to the tip?Oh well,at least she'll be in one piece:-)

[bella_again]

You know I expect my family to do whatever they would want with my things.  I hope that they would keep one or two things that give them positive memories about me but seriously I don't expect anyone to keep all my carp LOL!

When my MIL passed away we kept many of her things but in the end had so much we had a garage sale. It was so hard.  Some stuff we sent to charity and other stuff we shared among family. Mostly we wanted to make that the things we gave away went to people who used and appreciated them and mainly that was the case.  I don't think she would have wanted stuff boxed up never to see the light of day.

Of course the most important things are the memories and they will always remain in our hearts, those things can not be given away.