on 01-12-2020 12:19 AM
Is telling girls not to drink excessively or not to dress too scantily to avoid being vulnerable targets to predators/opportunist "victim blaming"?
on 02-12-2020 10:29 PM
I have been to Thailand 3 times, have walked back to the hotel on my own, once a bar girl walked me home.
I was treated with so much respect.
I fell over because of broken pavement, 10 people rush to pick me up all saying, you need hospital Mama
I said no just feel embarrassed, they said no naughty road LOL
I slipped amd fell head first in to the Choalate rack at Coles, some oil on the floor, 4 people walked past me
I have friends that go there every year and not one has been robbed
I felt safer in Thailand then Bali
06-12-2020 11:23 PM - edited 06-12-2020 11:25 PM
@lalbo-81 wrote:And in my eyes, and the eyes of many in the mental health profession, what they want really isn't sex, it's control. They want the power that comes with knowing they have dominated a woman of any age. Rape doesn't just happen to young pretty women, it happens to old women too. In their homes, in nursing homes, in parking lots, everywhere a young woman could be raped too.
Rapists are opportunistic criminals; if they are not given the opportunity it is more difficult for them to commit the crime
@lalbo-81 wrote:
You're right, the reality is that it has nothing to do with what a woman wears, or drinks, or how she acts. It's all about power.
It's about being in vulnerable position; like being drunk legless, or being in deserted place alone.
@lalbo-81 wrote:
And I believe that women do it as well, but men don't report their own rapes most of the time. I wish they would.
Women do not attack men in back lanes, do not drag them into cars with knife at their throats to force them to have sex with them, do not bash them, stab them, dump their mutilated bodies. Sometimes women make unwanted sexual advances to men, but that is hardly comparable.
on 06-12-2020 11:39 PM
Are you serious?
on 07-12-2020 08:01 AM
@*kazumi* wrote:I am not surprised China was not happy with Morrison calling for the covid inquiry. Basically he jumped on the Trump bandwagon blaming China. They were in midst of unprecedented disaster, with large parts of their country locked down, their economy stopped. They were working 24/7 trying to work out what is happening, to develop vaccine, find treatment. What could inquiry achieve? What would visit to the Wuhan market achieve? It was closed down and disinfected. What would going to the research facility achieve? Would you want to examine every petri dish to make sure they are not breeding covid?
The Chinese were insulted, and even Trump turned down his language. There is a time to call out countries on their behavior, but there is also diplomacy needed to deal with huge country, which takes 40% of our exports; that is 40% of our export income. It will not be easy to replace that. Just in time when we desperately need that income. Interestingly, we never criticize the USA does not matter what they do.
There may possibly be more to this than we are being told. ( wouldn't be the first time ). There has been a regular suggestion in the media that there is a facility near the outbreak that is used for researching biological warfare agents. Is it possible that COVID may be an escaped virus from such a facility ? If so it is important that China is called out on this and put on notice that the world knows what they are doing.
More generally, we where all rightly concerned about Trumps erratic international diplomacy and you have been vocal on this issue. But at least America has got a series of checks and balances in their system.
An electoral system that holds the president accountable at the next election, an elected and vocal opposition, legal and impeachment processes, independent state governors, teams of handlers and advisers and hopefully independent, smart public officers at the head of organisations such as the police and military.
China has none of those things, and at the moment the current Chinese dictator leader is a nut job who is leading the country down a very dangerous path. The only checks and balances on China going completely off the rails is for other nations to have the courage to stand up to them and call out behaviour that is destabilising to sovereign rights and global peace
07-12-2020 05:21 PM - edited 07-12-2020 05:23 PM
@*kazumi* wrote:
@lalbo-81 wrote:And in my eyes, and the eyes of many in the mental health profession, what they want really isn't sex, it's control. They want the power that comes with knowing they have dominated a woman of any age. Rape doesn't just happen to young pretty women, it happens to old women too. In their homes, in nursing homes, in parking lots, everywhere a young woman could be raped too.
Rapists are opportunistic criminals; if they are not given the opportunity it is more difficult for them to commit the crime
@lalbo-81 wrote:
You're right, the reality is that it has nothing to do with what a woman wears, or drinks, or how she acts. It's all about power.
It's about being in vulnerable position; like being drunk legless, or being in deserted place alone.
@lalbo-81 wrote:
And I believe that women do it as well, but men don't report their own rapes most of the time. I wish they would.
Women do not attack men in back lanes, do not drag them into cars with knife at their throats to force them to have sex with them, do not bash them, stab them, dump their mutilated bodies. Sometimes women make unwanted sexual advances to men, but that is hardly comparable.
You are so far off base it isn't funny. Did your ID get hacked? Whoever you are, you don't read like the kazumi posts I've read in the past.