@**freethinker_bob** wrote:
@cosmosgrove wrote:
I prefer being single and I'm happier when I'm single (after the first flush of love is over). I've had plenty of people over the years tell me it's because I haven't met the 'right' one, I'm a little cynical about that. Being in a relationship means making sacrifices for the other person (and they for you) I would have to feel very strongly for someone to do that.
I could list numerous reasons why I choose to be single but to summarise it - independance.
But that's exactly the point. If you found someone who is compatible and you still can have your independence, would you still choose to be single????
Maybe not, if it made us happy, but I really think that is the exception and not the rule. Relationships have never been my stong point, I generally find them hard work. My life is easier and I'm more content when I'm single. I'm very comfortable being single and find others more unsettled by it than I ever was, particularly when I was younger.
It did take time to fully embrace it and realise the white knight wasn't coming and to just get on with living, this had alot to do with societies expectations. I think far too much emphasis is placed on being in a relationship and being valued by another rather than learning to value ourselves first.
