No one "should" be raped under any circumstances, but it does happen, so a person needs to take some responsibility for their own safety and do what is required to minimize risk.
I don't agree with that.
I read this blog article the other day, which I thought was very well written.
The Awkward and the Awful
There is no "**bleep** outfit" -
Short skirts, knee-high boots, a daring amount of cleavage. None of these cause **bleep** to happen. I have at various times sported all of these and as I mentioned, **bleep** was not a natural or actual consequence. The lack of **bleep** that occured the last time I wore a short skirt was not some failure in the natural order. I'm pretty sure that it was just because there weren't any rapists nearby at the time.
"Risky" behaviours don't cause **bleep** - Although I'm a bit of a boring old sod now, in the past I have done some decidedly unclever things. I have been so drunk I couldn't take care of myself in any fashion. I have, when out at night, become separated from friends. I have been alone with men who I didn't know nearly well enough. I've walked home alone at night through "dodgy" parts of town. I still didn't get raped. The reason? Because nobody decided to **bleep** me on those occasions. This is something I'm pleased about, but the difference between it happening and not happening didn't have anything to with my choices but those of the people around me.
**bleep** can happen anywhere - You can be raped in your own home, at a friend's house, at work, in a park, at school, at a party. There isn't a specific geography that makes **bleep** more likely. The deciding factor that determines where a **bleep** will occur... is the location of the rapist. Without one in the immediate vicinity your chance of being raped drops to zero. Even if you're running around in the skimpiest outfit you own.
Rapists look like normal people - Sadly there is no obvious trait that lets the rest of us know that someone is a rapist. A rapist can be handsome. A rapist can be charming with a good sense of humour. A rapist can be someone you love and trust. A rapist can be someone you've previously had consensual sex with. A rapist can be a family member or friend or workmate. A rapist can be a complete stranger. A rapist can be young or old, rich or poor and of any ethnicity or religion.
As far as I'm concerned the above are solid, unimpeachable facts so why anyone would consider that it's okay to turn the blame for a **bleep** back onto the victim, whilst willfully ignoring the above is quite frankly mindboggling to me. It is simply not acceptable in a modern society like ours to spout that kind of nonsense. This kind of attitude actually makes it easier for rapists to get away with their vile crimes by creating an environment in which victims will not report **bleep** because they fear being shamed and guilted in this way. That's right. This kind of rubbish actually helps no one...except rapists.
Read more: http://www.stuff.co.nz/life-style/blogs/moatas-blog-idle/9373479/The-awkward-and-awful
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