independent running in QLD election filmed slapping his son

[wilk1149]

But even worse this piece of **bleep**e poured water over his little baby. Proof that not every one should have the right to have children

[polksaladallie]

Good lord Vic, is that a spark of humanity I see there?   A little bit of softness?   It is very welcome, please nurture it.

[vicr3000]

LOL

Trying desperately to kill it off but it keeps raising it's ugly head

(My mum told me I lacked any empathy when I was a teenager !)

No, seriously, it is a very true statement and I have seen it said before (probably when I did my Psych degree).

If you only intereact with kids when they are bad, then in some they will be bad to get your attention.

Self fulfilling ? Pavlov's dog ?

Plenty of other things the poster said are very true as well,

I just thought that was was worth highlighting.

What's the saying, you can attract more flies with Honey than Vinegar ?

[cherry*135]

One of my rellies sons, was a mischievious , naturally unruly boy. He grew up to be an Airline pilot. His parents are cool, calm, mild mannered people.

Some kids are just diabolical, over active, wilful, smacking and hitting them doesn't help at all. End up being damaged humans if thry are abused instead they could have become an airline pilot or another career of their choice.

[jean2579]

When my son was small and used to throw tantrums at home, I found the best way to deal with it was to lock myself in the bedroom with a book for a short time until he ran out of steam.
I realised when he was very tiny that he loved an audience and I found that if I took the audience away he soon calmed down.
No point being outrageous if there is no one to be outraged.

[polksaladallie]

Once in woolworths a few years ago, I came across a boy of about 3 lying on the floor, no-one seemed to own him.  He wasn't doing anything but lying still.  I watched for a few minutes as three old people said inappropriate things to him like "You'll get run over there".  I looked around and way on the other side of the shop near the milk was a young woman, just watching and waiting.  Doing the absolutely right thing.  (Mr or Mrs Deller and others probably would belted him and yanked him screaming with them). 

So I bent down and showed him my shopping list, and told him I couldn't find the milk, and did he know where it was.  Up he jumped and almost dragged me over to the milk area where his mum was waiting, and pulled out a bottle of milk and gave it to me.  She mouthed "thank you" to me and away they went happily.

Just an illustration to show that positive methods work wonders.

[lloydslights]

My Dad used to raise an eyebrow.  Mum used distraction or diversion.  And lots of cuddles; and requests for us to "help" her.

In regard to Secondhand's little 2 year old friend.  My thoughts.

I'm wondering what the parent in charge is doing whilst a tot is pulling off a dirty nappy.  Hasn't the aroma awakened the parent that "art" is about to begin?  

 His sense of touch could be aroused even more.  Have a game with fabrics - let him explore textures, fur, silk, sandpaper, wool. Make mud pies with him.  Teach stroking. 

Quiet time could include having him in the lap, reading a book about cats.

Most of all, the child needs a guide to help him explore this world.  And to have examples of behaviour to follow.

DEB

[polksaladallie]

Those are lovely suggestions Lloyd.  All positive.

I used to have a lovely children's book about a cat that was being mistreated, with a lesson that taught the listener that this was wrong.  Can't remember the name of it, and I have thrown it away since I no longer babysit.

[azureline**]

He has withdrawn from the election campaign and apologised.

I didn't watch the video until just now, on the news...................

[lloydslights]

I hope the behavioural issues are continually addressed. 

I hope the family sits around the breakfast table at home in appropriate chairs, eating an appropriate meal and talk to one another nicely.  

That's all from me on this man's actions. 

DEB