pesky neighbour

[kengillard]

how to get rid of them without insulting them?

[kengillard]

yes Jean...thinking seriouly about it.  OH is about to go into a nursing home, so don't think I can afford to stay in our house anyway....sad really...love it here.

[kengillard]

she doesn't want help....in 10 years I've never been inside her house...never been invited.  think I"ll try and get her sons phone no.. in case something happens to her...

[jean2579]

Gill, you really do have a full plate. First and only priority are your OH and yourself. Time to get selfish. Sorry to hear about your OH.

[kennedia_nigricans]

...not do any gardening till about 3pm as she needed to sleep and me being in the yard caused her dog to bark constantly and wake her..

it is HER dog. so it's HER problem if it barks. it is also YOUR garden and you can do the gardening whenever you like

[kennedia_nigricans]

Maybe drop a letter into her mailbox telling her that if she keeps harassing you (banging on your door at 2 am etc) you will call the police and get a restriction order.

[green.fields]

 She's a Scorpio if that means anything to anyone....totally focused on self... doesn't give a hoot about anyone else.   

I'm a Scorpio, I must try focusing on myself and learn to not give a hoot about anyone.

Time for caller i.d. and not answer the door....Not answering the door is a tactic I employ on a local woman who harasses my neighbours and myself.

[beach_and_home]

I don't believe that ignoring this person is the answer. How about contacting some Govt agencies and suggesting they pay this person a visit? ie: home help, meals on wheels, senior citizens clubs etc. Sounds like she needs some social interaction from somewhere. I don't think the OP would be very happy if this person died and wasn't found in her home for 2 days. But if she doesn't want to be responsible then she just needs to find someone else who can be.

[freshwater-2]

You brought up a good point, Beach.

Gillie is in an appalling situation, through no fault of her own......being kind is not a faullt.

She should not have to deal with this sort of thing in her present situation or stage in her life.

Of course I am speaking the bleeding obvious.

I am really disturbed by the whole situation.

The only positive I can think of is that it may force her to make plans for her future...ie selling the house.

It may be a drastic move, but I do think Gillie was considering it for the future anyway.

She is really between a rock and a hard place.

However, it has been my experience in life that positives come out of negatives.

I hope it holds true for dear Gillie too.

[kengillard]

you're a darling Freshie.. thank you for your comments

[debra9275]

Gee it's a hard one Gill.

especially if she lives close enough to see whether you're home or not. I had an auntie that I loved dearly who used to call me a lot and they were often 2 hour phone calls but when she got dementia it got worse and it was so hard.

I found myself cutting the conversations short by saying I had to go shopping etc, etc., Now she's gone I really miss her

Could you say you don't hear the phone when you're n the shower or when you're vacuuming, things like that? If I were you I would still answer some but not all if that's possible and hopefully that wouldn't hurt her feelings