@grandmoon wrote:
@crusader-rabbit48 wrote:
@grandmoon wrote:My OH can from a communist country and his parents were very poor. He felt that he should help them when ever possible and I agreed with him.
But since his parents died his younger sister seems to think he should keep supporting her.
Younger sister sounds like she needs a reality check.
Get the local paper, give it as a gift.
Contains items like : Flats to Rent, Jobs, all she needs.
I am looking for a tee shirt with what part of the NO don't you understand.
Her latest request is for him to buy her a 2 bedroom unit to live in. She has been to no repeatedly but she is still asking.
haha. Reminds me of a story I read about a 20-something who wrote to one of those magazine agony aunts about her unreasonable parents. She didn't work, her parents gave her a car and a generous allowance to live on but she was full of anger because they wouldn't buy her her own apartment as well. After all, they could easily afford it! The reply from the agony aunt was priceless....and certainly not what she expected. 
@kopenhagen5 wrote:Of course we don't. Our parents wouldn't want us to think we did.
BUT, we would give our parents everything.
Most of us iin normal families would,but those of us who were abused don't owe the parent zilch.
I was raised in eastern European countries with different values to family life. There was no pension fo the ones to old to work anymore. Some were in their eighties still tending their land or working for some pittance of a wage. Children took care of parents, grandparents were part of a household and often took care of young children while both their parnts worked.
Times changed after WWII and the elderly received a pension and a Governmnt Housing unit, to be able to live on their own. Many old people still lived with a son or a daughter because it was so expected from tradition they grew up in.
When I migrated to Australia and told my parents that I'll never come back to Europe, my prents descided to migrate as well to Australia. Both my parents found jobs, rened a house and lived in Melbourne until my father retired 18 years later. They came to live in our town, got a nice unit in the Retirement Village I live now. I took care of my parents and my husbands parents, who we brought to Victoria from NSW. By that time my own children and stepchildren had left home to pursue careers in the city, but my time was not my own.
The one time I wanted to go away for a few days, my mother hit the roof. Calling me selfish and telling me that I owed her because she gave me my life. I had such confrontations with my mother before, but thhis one time I blew my stack and told my mother that I never asked her to be born. I felt awful afterwards, and from that day on I promised self to never ever try and make one of my children feel guilty if they ar to busy to keep in touch. I know that if I neded help I could call on one or two of my children, but as long as I can manage I will let them live their life without being a burden to anyone of them.
Traditions and customs of certain countries still insist on such family ties. Times have changed and are changeing at a faster pace. Today older people can prepare their aged care without becoming a burden or mking a child feel guilty because they have to work and no time to be on the parents back and call.
Do we owe our parents anything? I would say yes, if the parents sacreficed their own comfort and pleasures to work and get me through a great education so I can have a better life. But most parents just mange to feed and raise their children, and if they ar lucky, perhaps even buy a house. A lot of young people leave School early and leave home to go their own way. Lots of different circumstances to define if we owe our parents anything. The most important thing we owe them is love and care.
@grandmoon wrote:
@channys_mum wrote:Is your sister-in-law in Australia grandmoon
NO thank goodness.
I would probable be in jail if she was.
How is her English comprehension
Would she understand 'Bite me sis'
