"We don't Owe our Parents anything"

[the_bob_delusion]

Discuss.

[grandmoon]

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@lind9650 wrote:

grandmoon, funny part is that most people in eastern countries think that everyone living in Australia is a millionaire.

Erica

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She refers to him as "My rich brother from Australia"

[channys_mum]

bite me sister = bite me sestra

Must be a universal expression 

[the_great_she_elephant]

My mother once said of my sister, "Of course, she has never really forgiven me for giving birth to her without her permission." It summed her up perfectly.

[fourandsixpants]

I was told by a wise person with 'special insight' many years ago, that the unborn spirit of a baby/child/person chooses their biological parents before conception.

Get your mind around that! 

[iapetus_rocks]

That's a Buddhist thing, I think.

or at least it comes from a particular sect of buddhism.

[iapetus_rocks]

The Zen people might ask you "who were you before you were born?"

[joz*garage]

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on ‎01-01-2015 05:33 PM

Discuss.

yes i know

[joz*garage]

Discuss.

yes i know

[iapetus_rocks]

Maybe ask parents why they wanted children.

Was it for selfish reasons? Parents . . please state your reasons for wanting or for having kids.

It's not as if the kids choose to be born, is it?

If the children are planned for and wanted, then it's the parents' obligation to look after and to care for their "possession" just as you would for a pet.

if the kid is an accident, then it's the parent's responsibility to look after the life they have so cavalierly created.

We don't owe our parents anything. They were either selfish in their desire to bring us into this already overpopulated world or they  were negligent.

In either case, it was a selfish desire which was their motivation.

[softail-joanie]

i think varries for diffrent people, for me, well, i don't know, i don't recal asking to be born. i come to find that my mom smoked when she was pregnant, so i don't think she was thinking of me very much. she is no longer around anyway for me to pay her back. that smoking caught up with her. i tried to get my sister on board to sue the tobacco companys, but she smokes herself and warships them. my sister even blamed me for mom's death, saying because i couldn't be subjected to the smoke, mom had to smoke in the back part of the house, i claim baked her, shut her in with her own smoke.

far as my dad goes, i owe him something maybe, and i'm sure he will keep reminding me. but compared to my sister and half brother, my stepmom, and their three dogs, i rank down below the dogs. i remember when my sister and i were kids, they started bank accounts for us, we were not allowed to take money out, only put money in, kinda a lesson in saving.

my sister took all the money out and later lied about it, saying she didn't, i remember dad, very angry yelling at the bank employee, you'd get arrested for that now, this was the 80s. he took my lying sister's word and called the bank liers. Fast forward to last summer, when the police came to the shelter i was staying, and the next day took my bicycle saying i was in the middle of the road blocking traffic. forced me to go to the hospital where i had to call dad to pick me up. I told him the truth, he wouldn't believe me, he just took the cop's side. i never lied to him about anything even when it did get me in trouble. i wasn't lying to him here.

i suspect my parrents made money on us kids, and my dad had a helper, who was the only one helping him when he was ever working out in the yard or garage? i'm in a shoddy camper now, not allowed to run a heater because it uses too much electric. dad reminds me that i'd be paying 600 or more if i was renting, whenever i discuss leaving the state to find something better. i was looking into bakersfield califorina, or maybe LA.

i probibly owe them something, but not much.. now if we were to talk about what the sheriff and police owe me in loss and damages, i'd be doing rather well.

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[dwilke33]

I didn't have the best childhood.  My mom and dad never got along so there was always yelling and fighting.  However, I do believe they did the best they could at raising 4 children. 

When you know better, you do better....to quote Oprah.  So, as an adult I forgave my parents for my lousy childhood and moved on.

Both of them worked hard to provide for us kids, they were far from lazy.  They have both passed on now and I honor their lives and their memory every day.   I don't feel I 'owe' them that, but give them that honor freely.