"We don't Owe our Parents anything"

[the_bob_delusion]

Discuss.

[this-one-time-at-bandcamp]

How about when the shoe is on the other foot..............

https://www.yahoo.com/parenting/21-year-old-sues-parents-for-college-tuition-and-104767331362.html

[softail-joanie]

I didn't have the best childhood.  My mom and dad never got along so there was always yelling and fighting.  However, I do believe they did the best they could at raising 4 children. 

sorry, i kinda know what thats like. just me and a 1 year younger sister, as kids, dad would favor my sister and mom would favor me. i had alot of freedom as a kid, but never got into trouble, my sister had less freedom and always seemed to be getting into trouble. Things kinda reversed as adults on the freedom and the getting into trouble, but thats a sidenote. Once, mom was complaing to dad about sis, dad out of spite spanked her, mom, not to be one up-ed, came into my room to spank me, just to make things even i guess.... Dad stopped her and well, let me just say that i would have rather been spanked than to see mom being hit or beat up, or even held down like that. out of the two, mom was the most vile and nasty by far. if she got angry, your food wasn't safe to eat. and she was often angry. i hate to say that because shes gone, but it's true

[lyne-flyn]

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@dwilke33 wrote:

I didn't have the best childhood.  My mom and dad never got along so there was always yelling and fighting.  However, I do believe they did the best they could at raising 4 children. 

When you know better, you do better....to quote Oprah.  So, as an adult I forgave my parents for my lousy childhood and moved on.

Both of them worked hard to provide for us kids, they were far from lazy.  They have both passed on now and I honor their lives and their memory every day.   I don't feel I 'owe' them that, but give them that honor freely.

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You could be talking about my family...only there were 6 of us and mum never worked outside the home her entire married life.

Dad was always employed but he was an alcoholic for many years,so there were a lot of arguments...still, there was always food on the table and a roof over our head.

As you say...they did the best they could with what they had.

I lost them both within 8 weeks last year.

[crusader-rabbit48]

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@paintsew007 wrote:

I was told by a wise person with 'special insight' many years ago, that the unborn spirit of a baby/child/person chooses their biological parents before conception.

Get your mind around that! 

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Mine (1) really chose well.

[zanadoo_56]

I was lucky - I had great parents, a brother I got on well with (we still do) and we both had a very stable childhood.  We weren't rich but my father had a good job, we both went to good schools (not top of the line ones but still good) and it was a happy time.

My parents were so good at being parents that I knew I'd never be bothered to put in the hard yards like they did....so I made the decision I would never have children of my own.  I just wasn't into raising kids and it seemed crazy to have any if they weren't wanted.  It was a decision I've never regretted as they would not have had a life as happy and carefree as the one I had.

[dwilke33]

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@lyne-flyn wrote:

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@dwilke33 wrote:

I didn't have the best childhood.  My mom and dad never got along so there was always yelling and fighting.  However, I do believe they did the best they could at raising 4 children. 

When you know better, you do better....to quote Oprah.  So, as an adult I forgave my parents for my lousy childhood and moved on.

Both of them worked hard to provide for us kids, they were far from lazy.  They have both passed on now and I honor their lives and their memory every day.   I don't feel I 'owe' them that, but give them that honor freely.

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You could be talking about my family...only there were 6 of us and mum never worked outside the home her entire married life.

Dad was always employed but he was an alcoholic for many years,so there were a lot of arguments...still, there was always food on the table and a roof over our head.

As you say...they did the best they could with what they had.

I lost them both within 8 weeks last year.

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lyne, my dad was an alcoholic as well.  But, when he was sober he was the greatest dad anyone could want.  He was a great man, just had this problem with alcohol.

Hugs to you.  I think we may have encountered similar situations in our growing up years.  I understand.