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I just sold my first item Cash On Pickup. Responding to the buyer's email about it I saw a note from eBay there saying don't give your contact details ... ? So how, when, do I let the buyer know where to come, how to phone me?
I won a microscope in an auction and paid immediately as I usually do. Then the vendor refused the Paypal payment, saying he wouldn't accept Paypal and claimed an increase in the post/packing costs though it has been automatically calculated at the t...