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I have LOTS of dvds and after many many failed attempts to sell individual dvds for better than bargain prices, I just want to make a listing for bulk dvds, but I want to give them the option to choose their own from a list. Can I do that?
I know I can't really 'demand' it, but if I put a warning up at the start of the listing, do you think people will bid accordingly and agree to it? Because I'm going overseas soon and I only have a 2 day window to post.
If they had of said a couple of days because they were waiting on funds or something that would be a different story. But they emailed me and TOLD me they would pay in 12 days. I guess I'm in no rush for the money but mustn't payment be made within 5...
I got the item as described and everything, but they posted it a week after I paid for it. Is that normal for full time sellers? I expect much quicker service than that.
I knew it was too good to be true, because I sold something at a great price I was happy with. Now the buyer says it hasn't shown up. Will paypal give them my money now?