on 02-05-2018 05:15 PM
You've turned out pretty great M, time to thank your mum!
Well ebay I lost my dear Mum in 1989!!! I would love nothing moe than to be able to speak to her...
Why not just send an email saying quite genericly... our Mother's Day sale is on etc....
not impressed...
on 07-05-2018 10:58 PM
Lyndal, I know it wasn't funny for you at the time, but reading your story all I could think was: "OMG, the Monty Python Dead Parrot sketch!"
on 08-05-2018 12:33 PM
Looking back on the incident I can only see the funny side of it now. I suppose I must have been a bit upset at the time but my most abiding memory is the sheer frustration of someone not understanding that a dead person cannot come to the phone.
on 08-05-2018 01:38 PM
Maybe they were a young person who thought you could insert another 40c and get 3 new lives?
on 08-05-2018 02:19 PM
@lyndal1838 wrote:
@the_great_she_elephant wrote:The banks do it even better. A few weeks after my mum died, her credit card and my dad's both expired and the bank sent out new ones - two separate envelopes, one addressed to him, one to her. As he knew what they were, he didn't bother to open Mum's envelope just wrote "Customer deceased. Return to sender", on it and sent it back. Fast forward a couple of months and he recieved in the mail some promotional material from the same bank. again there were two separate envelopes, one addressed to him and one addressed to "The Deceased Customer."
That is almost as good as my experience with a well known insurance company after my father died. I rang to ask what I had to do to keep the property insured.
The young lady who took my call asked if I was the policy holder.....I again explained that my father was dead and I wanted to know what was needed to keep the property insured. The answer was that they could not do anything until they had spoken to the policyholder.....could he come to the phone.
No he could not come to the phone....he was dead. Did I have an address so and to this day I still shake my head at the stupidity of some people.
Ah, those stories bring back memories indeed.
My brother was in a hospice, final stages of brain cancer from a melanoma.
Anyone who has had anything to do with brain cancer will know it affects everything-a person's physical mobility, their ability to think etc & my brother had 3 tumours.
We rang Foxtel to cancel his subscription as we took over his bills, he was a single man but we knew he wouldn't be going home & the house was empty.
Nope, have to speak to the policy holder, we were told. He can no longer speak, we told them. Too bad, was the answer.
So.. next day my brother in law rang with a few details written out (date of birth etc) & pretended to be my brother. No problems, cancelled in minutes.
And as for banks, don't start me on them. What I would like to know is why, in this computer age, can't they make instant changes to account details?
My brother had a credit card. He didn't use that particular one, he had opened it a decade earlier for a former girlfriend who was the secondary card holder. So my sister (with financial power of attorney) went to the bank to put a credit limit on it, only to be told it would take 4 days to take effect. In that time, an extra $5000 in bills went on the card & even after the bank was informed in writing of my brother's death, they allowed that card to be used for several more months. And yes, we were still liable for the bills.
09-05-2018 09:26 PM - edited 09-05-2018 09:29 PM
Wow soooo cold.....give it a rest for goodness sake. If this was YOU....
on 09-05-2018 09:28 PM
on 09-05-2018 09:48 PM
@c_mount wrote:Wow soooo cold.....give it a rest for goodness sake. If this was YOU....
Do you have a vendetta against a well respected member for some reason?
This was Stawks post:-
"This is a member to member help forum.
Ebay don't read here.
Sorry you lost your mum, but how is ebay supposed to know?"
What on earth is wrong with that?
on 09-05-2018 10:16 PM
@c_mount wrote:Wow soooo cold.....give it a rest for goodness sake. If this was YOU....
Ah. I see.
It is horrible when a personal loss is seemingly ignored. (And often it is; officialdom, corporations, they are often offensive and difficult which is just insult to injury. Grief also makes many people more sensitive to the lack of care expressed by a corporation.)
Imastawka was not (I'm absolutely sure) trying to denigrate your feelings of loss, but rather pointing out that eBay wouldn't have known about the average eBay member's loss, including yours - and even had they known, it wouldn't have changed the eBay bots' "behaviour", nor the decisions reached by eBay staff.
If you were to post on the eBay boards community in a friendly way, imastawka would probably end up being one of your favourite people. I have sometimes checked the boards here in between some complicated and difficult work, when I'm feeling overwhelmed by some of the personal situations of clients, and found myself grinning and relaxing by something posted by imastawka.
on 09-05-2018 10:26 PM
on 09-05-2018 10:31 PM
I will use my umbrella, and I'll be on the lookout for Weapons of Mass Expectoration.