Kyle's replies were rude and not wise, he didn't handle it well.
But he started off okay, I think you are the one who triggered him, not vice versa.
You obviously don't know how ebay works. Bids are binding.
You cannot blithely say to a seller that it is too bad, you found it cheaper elsewhere.
In other words, you can't cancel.
A seller can cancel but you'd have to ask nicely, not demand. You were quite rude too.
What kyle should have done was not reply at all and after 4 days, just filed an item not paid claim.
Kyle is right, that would have got you a strike. Get 2 of those strikes within 6 months to a year and you'd find yourself unable to buy at all from quite a feww sellers.
What you don't realise is when you commit to buy, the seller is charged commission by ebay straight away, even though the buyer has not paid. They then have to go through a process to claim the fees back if there is no payment. So you're causing a seller extra work if they have to cancel or claim. That's partly why Kyle was upset, plus you've taken his listing down from ebay where it may have sold to someone else in the meantime.
However, Kyle has shot himself in the foot with this. He should have just let it go through to an unpaid claim or else cancelledd because now that he has not sent it, you can make a claim for a refund.
But before you go blithely bidding on any other items on ebay, please read up the help pages about buying and do your research before you bid, not afterwards.
