**AUTISM / ASPERGERS SUPPORT GROUP**

[doll*obsession]

A safe place for all members with friends or family with ASD

Come and have a cuppa, share your joys, and vent your problems with other people who understand.

[bella_again]

Thanks Buying 🙂 I totally agree that sometimes they need a break. It's so hard with DD she does not want to be different and yet she is iykwim.

I'm thinking that I may need to negotiate with the school for some mental health days when needed. I also think my mistake was that she hasn't been well but not so bad she couldn't go to school. We may need to make it that when she is not well even if its only minior that we collect work from school and do it that way until such time as her confidence is restored and she feels better.

The worst times for her is when there are chances, a new term or school and when she is not feeling 100% physically.

Its such a hard one because while I know we need to make considerations we also need to prepare her for life. Yet when anxiety is present every waking moment of their lives in some degree it makes it difficult to know how to best help them.

[bella_again]

sorry chances should be changes! 🙂

[azureline**]

Bella, I hope you get some good results.
We had a wonderful day today, playgroup and then Art and Craft class....miss was right into the pretend play, something she is not usually "good at" and also the paint on the table, hands in and a huge mess....she is usually pedantic about mess, so it was nice to see.:-x

[timeless_beauty_australia]

Thanks Buying 🙂 I totally agree that sometimes they need a break. It's so hard with DD she does not want to be different and yet she is iykwim.

I'm thinking that I may need to negotiate with the school for some mental health days when needed. I also think my mistake was that she hasn't been well but not so bad she couldn't go to school. We may need to make it that when she is not well even if its only minior that we collect work from school and do it that way until such time as her confidence is restored and she feels better.

The worst times for her is when there are chances, a new term or school and when she is not feeling 100% physically.

Its such a hard one because while I know we need to make considerations we also need to prepare her for life. Yet when anxiety is present every waking moment of their lives in some degree it makes it difficult to know how to best help them.

Totally understand, it is such a 2 edged sword. If you give them a bit of a break it can sometimes backfire and it is so hard to get them back to school. Even if they have only had a couple of days off the anxiety of going back can sometimes outweigh the break. It is so so hard and such a game of chance. Sometimes your decisions work, sometimes they just don't.

The month break I gave my son last year was really beneficial to his health but trying to get him back was such a struggle. How are your Sunday nights?/...mine are terrible!!!.

Does your daughter take anything for her anxiety. I have started my boy on a low dose anti anxiety med (has now been 2 weeks) and it is working absolute wonders. He is so much more relaxed and I don't have any probs getting him to school now. He used to be frightened of my daughter's dog (small shitzu) and as soon as he started meds he now plays with the dog and feeds him (something he would have never attempted beforehand).

[bella_again]

Hi Buying,
Glad to hear that your son is reponding to anti anxiety medication. My other DD who is also on the spectrum was so overwhelmed by anxiety she couldn't even function. She has been on seroquel and its done wonders. She has other issues though.

DD 12 (the one we've been discussion) is only on the melatonin no anti anxiety meds. Both the Peady and the physc are cautious of that and that's fine. We will wait and see how she goes. The last day has been ok, she seems fairly happy so maybe the meltdown is a bit of a release?

I'll be watching her closely to see how she is over the next few weeks.

[bella_again]

Please ignore my spelling and grammar mistakes.... Sorry I should have read the post before I posted. Lately I've been terribly guilty of it lol

[bella_again]

Well that didn't go well 😞 Just spoke to the school and I actually think they don't get it. Their response is 'Well shes fine here and I shouldn't be so anxious' ARRRRRRGGGGGHHHH

I don't think they want to be educated either.

[catsnknots]

Well that didn't go well 😞 Just spoke to the school and I actually think they don't get it. Their response is 'Well shes fine here and I shouldn't be so anxious' ARRRRRRGGGGGHHHH

I don't think they want to be educated either.

There is usually no problem at school itself. Mr12 had no problems at school, according to the teacher aids and the teachers themselves, as it all comes out at home.

The teacher aid told me her son found it very difficult and it has taken her two years to get him to the point that he can go to school full time with no problems.

I still think there might be a time at school where your daughter is feeling uncomfortable but can't quite figure out what it is.

Does she have any friends at the school that can give any guidance as to what the problem might be. Maybe lunch time is too long for her and she needs guidance during that time for example.

Don't give up.. the issue will come to light and in return the solution will follow.

[punch*drunk]

Thanks Kiwi, we are not seeing anyone yet, I tried about a year ago, but the waiting list is soo long for public, still waiting

and the cost for private is too much we just cant afford it, so I am reading as much as I can, I keep trying new strategies for her bad behaviour, I think maybe we need to enrol in a parenting course or something to get some help.

My 22 year old is the complete opposite of her, and she keeps saying mum, i dont ever remember being like Taylor, if you yelled at me I would do as i was told

Have you considered it could be a reaction to food?

Bread preservative 282 is known to cause that kind of behaviour in some kids. Might worth looking into if she's not displaying any other obvious signs of aspergers etc.

If you google it you will find lots of information and stories from people about its effect on their kids.

[bella_again]

There is usually no problem at school itself. Mr12 had no problems at school, according to the teacher aids and the teachers themselves, as it all comes out at home.

The teacher aid told me her son found it very difficult and it has taken her two years to get him to the point that he can go to school full time with no problems.

I still think there might be a time at school where your daughter is feeling uncomfortable but can't quite figure out what it is.

Does she have any friends at the school that can give any guidance as to what the problem might be. Maybe lunch time is too long for her and she needs guidance during that time for example.

Don't give up.. the issue will come to light and in return the solution will follow.

Hi Cat yeah I know matey, I guess its just frustrating. I did say that she is fine at school and happy at home. Its because of all the changes she is experiencing at the moment that she feels anxious etc.

Sadly unless they are willing to open their eyes a little bit to understand that its not that school itself is the source more that its challenging and within herself she is anxious; I won't get anywhere. Despite the diagnosis they feel that she doesn't have AS.

Out of sight out of mind so to speak, they can't see it, so it can't exist. I'll just have to keep plodding away and wait until an opportunity presents for me to address it all.