Cat_mioux's new home

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soundcollector65
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Treat this like a marriage because I'm sure you would be entitled to some of his super as well.
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beach, my psychologist described this type of relationship breakup as the living death and it's true. For all intent and purpose the partner you once thought you had forever is dead to you.....yet they are still alive. They still get to go off and play happy families with their new partner and you're left holding the shattered pieces. They've had months to adjust to their deceit and lies and justify their actions. ( usually coz they're not happy) pfffttttt
I've lived through the death of several close family members and whilst it hurt, it didn't come close to the pain and humiliation of being cheated on and left.
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With super it's divided up 50/50, so if he has more than you then it may well be worth persuing.
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cyn ~ LOL Glad to help and looking forward to OK Day! :-x


Cat ~ Honey what a pathetic soul he is, can't even organise himself a new place to live without the family stepping in to help.

How old is he Cat????
"Something wicked this way comes!"
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He's taking the lounge suite, coffee table, lawn mower, tools ..

I know we're not supposed to be into revenge but I'm not a good person B-)

I'm picturing a coffee table with one leg just slightly shorter than the others, so it rocks annoyingly for the rest of its life. (Do you want to borrow my sander?!!)
And there is no way I'd be vaccing the cat hair off the lounge for the next month ...the cats' favourite place to eat/sleep/shed isn't it?! (it is as of NOW)
Mmmm Lawn Mower... whoops how did that sugar get in the petrol tank?

Whistle, whistle, la la la.
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Yep I totally agree with previous (and v wise!) posters about 'stuff'. I doubt you will be concerened about it when he and all this bad 'aura' of his is out of the house.

When I left my last live in relationship, I had a similar situation. Really all I had was a lounge, TV and bed. I realised then how emotional attachments to THINGS is just such a waste of our energy. I mean nothing we have (as in material possessions) is going to last forever. We will have to let it all go eventually.

Once we are happy to accept 'whatever happens', we open ourselves up for so many wonderful things to happen. And THEY WILL HAPPEN. Cat, you are far higher up the beanstalk than he is!! IYKWIM!? I love the comment made previously about 'a tool is a tool no matter what shed it's in' - so true! He is still immersed in thecrazy decisions, thoughts etc.

Look at where you are now! OK so you may be without a lounge - so what!? (I prefer heaps of cusions, and throw rugs etc! That's what I'd have if my visitors were happy to sit on the floor ๐Ÿ˜ - maybe I got bad visitors tho!!)

I got plenty of faith that it will work out just fine, so I'm sharing some of that with you!! Take take take!!! Who knows, maybe what the future holds is just awsome ๐Ÿ˜‰
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sarafi, ha ha. What you have described is merely a serious of unfortunate events. Like the affair, 'they just happened' !!
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Cat, don't forget to join Freecycle in your area. You will be amazed at the great stuff some people offer when they are moving or upgrading, but don't want the hassle of selling. Yes, there is always dross, but with a well-shaped lounge or a good brand, with a throw over it, no-one will ever know the difference.

DD and partner have a dachshund who has just had a spinal operation, so have turned their home into a "Doxie Den". Comfy mattresses and cushions on the floor, as the little man can no longer be allowed up on chairs and lounges. They love it, and say they don't miss the furniture at all.

Are there procedures in Buddhism to rid a home of bad energies after NoNads leaves? If not, just visualise white light pouring into your house from above and washing out all that is harmful. Smudging with an incense stick can help a place feel refreshed, too.

All the best.
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some of the above posts are saying stuff i was thinking.

its all well and good to take the moral high road and be the bigger the person - just make sure it doesnt financially screw you. this is meant in a nice way - though it looks harsh

maybe it would be best to speak to someone and get your legal entitlements on paper.

You might be surprised at what you deserve and why put yourself through unnecessary hardship.

Someone who has no emotionally connection to either of you will just spell it out in black and white.

Im not suggesting quibble over the small stuff - its just sometimes we dont realise the value of things at the time.

It would be a shame for him to walk away scot. free. It seems like he never has to face any responsibility.

The situation has left you mentally and emotionally drained Im sure the last thing you can be bothered with is financial details but it might be worth at least speaking to someone outside.
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Agree Cat do not let NONADS off the hook finance wise get your legal entitlements on paper.....

Rent, power, phone bill, internet, mobiles etc still need to be 50/50 split before he decamps

Get the account number of his super fund and any details that proove he has it.....even if you don't do a thing about it..

On the day he goes make sure you have a friend/s handy and get the camera out ๐Ÿ™‚ photos can be presented if Nonads says he walked away without a thing IYKWIM
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