I agree too. I have been silently fuming on your behalf each time I read what he has been up to.
Everyone else is preparing his leaving but him, and how nicely it is all falling into place for him.
I have always believed, you do the wrong thing, you walk away with only your most personal things. What a nerve to say he wants ANYTHING, let alone large pieces of furniture that is going to make it difficult for you.
To think by him taking ANYTHING that is jointly both of yours, he is yet again making things that bit harder for you. His AIM should be to slip on off outta your life leaving the smallest ripple possible. Just shows how entitled he is!
So Cat, I would tell him, no matter what you have agreed to, that after thinking about it more, "you can go get stuffed, you will not take anything ELSE away from me." If he was half decent he would not CONSIDER taking anything that would cause you even slight discomfort.
Trust me, a few months down the track you will really kick yourself, if only for the principle of not fighting for it all.
Really, what a mongrel. You can bet when he gave notice he did not tell them the real reason for leaving. He begged you not to tell skanky's husband (scared he might get beaten up, or pee the skank off), sits back while his FAMILY organises setting him up. Finally, expects YOU to put up with him till he is perfectly ready to leave.
After all this time, you know he is leaving, no chance of him not now, you know you will be on your own, so why not take a bit of power back for yourself and TELL him to nick off NOW. Get it over with and stuff up HIS plans, make life difficult for HIM. Until now it has all being about YOU losing out, you being told what is happening.
So what about his excuse of having to give notice. So sad, that is his problem. Give him something to work out for a change. Tell him you get visions of murdering him in your sleep! Anything to get him out and stuff up his plans. As long as whatever reason you give, make it one that has YOU as the powerful one.
He does not give a stuff about anyone else. He is not the same man he was when everything was great. He has moved on, he does not care, so you should at least act on the outside that you do not care as well.
I know I should a real biatch, but this has gone on too far, it is time to rip off the bandaid, get it over with sooner than later. In fact, it is already later now. Possibly deep down you were hoping he might "break" out of her spell, so were hoping if you do not force the issue things would resolve, but too much time has gone by for this to happen Cat. Whatever happerns between him and Miss Skanky, I do not think there is a future for you two. The trust is gone, the respect is gone.
Well, I FEEL BETTER NOW, getting that all out, I wish it was the same for you CAT.
