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[cat_mioux]

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[cat_mioux]

Ms Cat,I was posting that I hope Im not being a pest posting so regularly..

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No, you are not being a 'pest' by posting regularly. You are being supportive, kind and caring!

My good friend who texts me almost every day also phones me at 5.30pm every day. Most times I pick up, sometimes I'm not able to pick up because I don't feel like talking to anyone and my friend knows this but I LOVE it that she doesn't feel she is being a 'pest'. She is being a good friend that will keep on texting and phoning me while I need it, whether I respond or not.

[dtrh3]

:8} thankyou Ms Cat :-x thats good.

Off to bed now,hope everyone here has a peaceful and restful night.
see you tomorrow :-x

[at_wicks_end]

Hi

We are good now, thank you. He is a regular kid health wise now, just Dr needs to keep an eye on him.

The last 4 years were hell, no other way to describe it. I literally collapsed to the floor when told what was wrong with him, was so unexpected. Thought he just had yet another virus. It was the shock. My boys personality changed as well due to the steroids he was put on. So, dealt with lots of bad behaviour and aggression as well as fear and anxiety. He still has anxiety about being in public places in case he picks up germs and gets sick, even tho he has as much chance of that happening as any other regular person now. Learnt behaviours.

How did I cope? Well, I think I had it easy compared to lots of other parents as they had other children at home to look after as well as their sick child.

The guilt they expressed about having to leave their sick and scared child alone to be looked after by the nurses.

I quit work as soon as I found out he had Leukemia and been his Carer since. Now he does Distance Ed over the computer here at home. He is classed as Year 7 (QLD) but has only completed year one before diagnosis.

it has always just been Mitch and myself. he goes to his dads most weekends, so that is my time.

During out hospital stays, his father would stay on the friday night so i could go home to sleep. He also travelled in most days during the week after work to see Mitch so i could go to the parents room at those times.

i may not like him much but will say he was brilliant in this regard.

[thebraff]

sending special *hugs* to Wicks, Ms Cat, Freddie, all MIA's and anyone who is suffering in any way. :-x

[lind9650]

That is great to hear, wicks. No matter the difference between two adults, the children need both parents especially in a crisis like this.



Sleep weel everyone. I hope your guardian angel keeps you safe.

Erica :-x

[cat_mioux]

wicks I'm so happy you and your darling Mitch are doing well. It goes to show there are strong women not only enduring but surviving well in this world, just loving their loved ones without any fanfare or medals. :-x

braff and erica sleep well, slight tight :-x

[cat_mioux]

oh almost forgot ..

I received a very sad and disturbing email from Mr Ex. It seems he is living in a motel room, has found work but hates it, says he totally 'messed' up his life, 'everything you said was right' (?) and he has never felt lonelier. It just made me sad. But it was all about him of course.

I won't be responding.

[**dilly**]

Just popping by to say hello cat, I read everyday but never say much on here because you seem to have everything under control...

[soul_art]

hello ms mioux 😄

hope you're feeling okay now, soooo happy to hear you have RL friends who take the time to show they really do care :-x


as for mr ex., being the kind hearted person you are, I'm sure reading his email would have touched your heart, it even made me feel sad for him and I don't even know him !

It does show that you can now see him in a different light by knowing not to respond to his call to rescue him, as really, that is what his message to you is. He is still expecting others to get him out of difficulties instead of learning to help himself.

Stay stong and remember he is the only one who can make his life go forward.

Thinking of you.

[dtrh3]

Dear Wicks,
Thanks for sharing a bit more of your story-I was touched that the three of you could put aside differences and focus on what really mattered-your sons health..:-x

I hope you able to take time out now and again to focus on yourself,sometimes the caregiver needs to be cared for too.:-)

Ms Cat,Hope you had a good nights rest.:-x

Reading that Mr has contacted you with an update of his sad miserable life:-(-sorry,but its SO predictable,its almost textbook stuff.Naturally,you would feel sorry for him,but theres nothing to be done for him.He needs to grow up and get real.Its quite pathetic-though he wouldnt get this,to express this to you,as if he is blameless for the position he chose.

This sort of behaviour is kind of interesting to watch(as if in a dream,out of the corner of your sight),but not absorbing,and absolutely not worthy of your energy.
You are far above and beyond it.

Im sending you warm energy and strong affirming thoughts..

Continue to focus on you,and take care of yourself:-x

you can do it you can do it you can do it

Hope everyone has a good day today:-x