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[cat_mioux]

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[my2cuddlycats_not]

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[cat_mioux]

I don't know why Mr Chuk wants his 'space' but it seems to me, for him to go out and party while leaving you there alone crying, he is only thinking of himself. You wonder what has suddenly turned their heart to ice? How can they love you one day then dismiss your pain the next?

Maybe he has been disconnecting from the relationship for awhile now? But for you is like being hit by a Mack truck. 😞

Where will you be going Chuk? To family?

[chuk_77]

some background, he had a back injury at work over 12 months ago, not healing well, he is depressed. His friends who he is drinking with are worried about him and have been for some time, we spoke last night and he admitted that he needs help, said he hates him self for pushing me away.
He has been saying he doesn't know why he feels like this, just feels something is not right.
It ended last week when I told him maybe he was depressed and needed to see his doctor. His mum who has passed away had a long battle with depression when he was a kid and she had a few break downs and had to "go away for a while" so he has issues with that anyway and lost the plot saying I thought he was a nutter. He has since said he hates me, cares for me, loves me wants to touch me, feels nothing..... it just goes round and round
I'm going to my parents house until I can find somewhere. Having never rented it won't be easy and the only places I can afford are in really bad areas. He keeps telling me there is no hurry. I have cleaned out the spare room to sleep in but the TV won't work in there so am in the bedroom and him in the loungeroom til I can get the aerial fixed.
Can't stay with my parents for too long, long story but my mum will drive me nuts, that is when she actually speaks to me. The longer I'm here the more time I can spend with my babies. My 30kg puppy tried jumping onto my lap last night for a cuddle. I cant walk away from that it's killing me to think about it. She is basically a special needs dog and he won't be able to do it, doesn't even know when she has infections where as I can tell just by looking at her. It is all too hard

[cat_mioux]

He has been saying he doesn't know why he feels like this, just feels something is not right.

He has since said he hates me, cares for me, loves me wants to touch me, feels nothing..... it just goes round and round

I'm so sorry Chuk. He doesn't seem to be making any sense. I'm really sorry to bring this up but his behaviour is very similar to Mr Cat's while he was having his affair. What does your instincts tell you?

His depression at this time could be guilty feelings if he is having an affair. You have the right to find out the real reason he wants his 'space'.

Leaving you special needs doggie will be heartbreaking Chuk 😞 Hopefully The Universe will provide a solution soon. I know it's all overwhelming at the moment but try to focus on your immediate needs because thinking too far ahead can make us nuts.

[cat_mioux]

I'm going for the 3000.

I'm so glad this thread can help and inspire others who need support.

[the_great_she_elephant]

OK that is him Now lets start on YOU You are trying to think way to far ahead. You don't need to cope with the next year, month or even week; only with today.

You are going to your Mum's - not ideal, but that is what is going to happen and at the moment that is the only thing you need to be concerned about, so concentrate on that. don't try to look any further.

Tomorrow will be another day and tomorrow you can face what needs to be done that day.

The future only arrives one day at a time.

[chuk_77]

my instincts tell me is not. I have asked him I told him to be straight with me as there is no use holding back anything now. He assures me there is not nor has been anyone else I do believe that. He says he wants to be alone so why leave me to get someone else were his words. Looking back over the last 6to 12 months, he has dumped his sister, his uncle who he was close to his cousin who he was close to and now me. He seems to be pushing everyone out of his life, which leads me to believe he is depressed.

[chuk_77]

she ele I've never been about me, I worry about those I love its always been that way. And I'm a planner they never amount to anything but I make them anyway as a way of trying to sort my thoughts.
He was playing a song the other day and was just staring at me crying I'm too scared to go to him in case I get too close

[lind9650]

Chuk, in what State do you live? Do you have a permanent job? Would you consider sharing a house?
Lots of people share to make it cheaper with rent. Seeing that you are not going after your legal share of the house, perhaps Mr. chuk can give you the money for the bond you'll need.

There are other people with animals that like to share a home with another animal lover. Don't dispair. Look at adds in the paper and on the internet Real Estate Rentals. The right place will come along when you least expect it.

Come in here and share your thoughts and feelings. It will make it easier for you than keeping it all inside and letting it eat you up. Many of us have been there, some with small children, and we all survived.
I'm not saying it is easy. Far from it, but having the support and experience from many is the greatest benefit.

[chuk_77]

yep I have a permanent job live in SA. I'm really shy so don't know how I'd go with a stranger unless it was already my house so I felt comfortable.
Bond money isn't an issue as I had been saving for IVF treatment. Yep we were planning on kids. Even still discussing it a couple days before we split. Why do that? If he had been feeling like this for so long, why plan a baby with me? He was asking when I was making the appointment WT??? 3 days later he ends it.