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[cat_mioux]

:^O

[cynthecowgirl]

That's what I wonder, do they care if they miss out in the long run? I was thinkng about this on the way home in the car tonight. A girlfriend lost her hubby to her brothers wife after they had an affair. ( a whole family completely wrecked.)
Anyhoo, he took off to QLD with his new bit of fluff leaving a little girl behind. My friend has raised this girl alone and she would be about 18 now and hardly has much to do with her dad.
So back to my origianal question, do they car ethat they'll miss out in the long run? Surely now or how could they just walk away in the first instance? How does aparent do that? I've been thinking abou this a lot more as my girls get older. Does he still get to walk them down the isle at their weddings? I'll be mighty miffed if he does because he hasn't put the hard yards in along the way and also becasue he treated his own marriage vows with such disrespect.

[Anonymous]

I was the same as you ,it used to get to me how he could
put his own needs before the kids ,but i would always tell the kids he loved them and it wasn't them it was him.
Cyn ..don't let it eat you up ,you can't change him or the situation ,you can only focus on what you do for your kids and not what he doesn't do iykwim.
when my son got married my ex was just a guest ..
then a year ago we had a family crisis ,I have to give credit where credit is due ,he was really there for his boys then and has completely changed (in saying that he is not with the same woman he was before either so I don't know how much influence she had on him )
my hubby and I can actually be in the same room as him now lol..we get on really well now ,it took 20 years tho .
the boys are finally having a relationship with their dad,and I couldn't be happier ,we had a family thing last week and he came ,he thought it was funny to put his arm round me ,even my oh cracked up .:^OWhen my dad died 6 months ago he came to the funeral and was a great support to all of us ..
so miracles do happen ,cause 2 years ago i would never ,ever have thought we could be friends .
and yes I know he has regrets ,but he also know he can't turn back the clock !
and in most (not all) cases its the woman who does that hard yards ,some blokes to get of scot free.gives ya the irrits ..
but thankgoodness its not as easy for us to just walk away
where would the kids be then .

[Anonymous]

that's why it's called mother's love I suppose :-x

[Anonymous]

I like this !

[cynthecowgirl]

I don't think I could ever be friends with my ex. Even the sound of his voice irritates me now. He's just a pompous git.

[cynthecowgirl]

awwww flannie, you'll never believe this, but I read that out in church for Mothers Day years and years ago when I was a little girl. I haven't seen it since. Thankyou.:-x

[cynthecowgirl]

I really missed my mum most of all during the marriage breakup. I don't think she would have been able to do or say anything that could have made things better, but she would have loved me. That's all, she'd have loved me and that's all i wanted was for someone to unconditionally love me.

[Anonymous]

:-x:-x cyn

[Anonymous]

I don't think I could ever be friends with my ex. Even the sound of his voice irritates me now. He's just a pompous git.

lmao ..should have seen what name I had his number
under in my phone ..I got caught too:8}:8}

can't repeat it here ..was two words tho ..
have changed it now ..ROFLMAO!!!!!

[thebraff]

Hello Ms Cat *waves*

How are you Chuk? :-x

Cyn *hug*, how awful to come back to all the trauma when you were only gone for 3 days and the children were in the care of the other parent.

You asked about a daughter getting married
Does he still get to walk them down the isle at their weddings?
Many years ago, a cousin of mine was getting married. She refused to ask her father to do it. She said 'he gave me away years ago so he is not doing it again'. Her brother did it instead.