Charlotte Dawson's Legacy

[izabsmiling]

I hope that in the future if not today open discussion on Depression and Mental Illness can carry on...

Thoughts and best wishes to all who loved and cared for and about you .

“Charlotte was a beautiful person physically, but she also had a beautiful soul. She was kind, loving and generous,” Vicky said.

“She was a kind, loving and generous person and worked tirelessly for the causes she believed in.

http://www.dailytelegraph.com.au/news/nsw/family-flies-in-from-new-zealand-to-lay-charlotte-dawson-t...

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Pepe,

Every day of my life I wear a mask, an *invisible mask*........I pretend to be happy when I am not, so when I see anyone I know they think I am, okay, when I am not.

I have done this since my son died, it is one of the ways I cope with my situation.

I have other issues as well and I have to get through each day, and some days I barely cope, what Darki said is true.

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darki my statement was in regards to cyberbullying.

but it also holds true for mental illness - positive self talk and cognitive behaviour therapy are two such coping strategies.

I really don't need to be educated on depression, I do have quite a good understanding of it and I do have empathy, despite how my posts have been twisted to indicate otherwise.

[cherry*135]

This thread is open to comments from anyone. Charlotte was a Tv Celeb and put herself out there on social media. The reason her agent gave for dumping her late last year.

A new thread about mental illness in general would not attract so much interest from people not affected and would be a better option for those genuinely interested in discussing it.

[darksideofthemoon]

sorry Pepe,  I didn't realise you meant cyberbullying which I have experienced and hate. I suppose I was using your thread to talk about the coping skills of the depressed... I shouldn't have done that, but it does need to be said.

I will now always try and see exactly what you mean..  No I'm not being unpleasant, I will make that effort.  It's so hard to get a message across with only words and not gestures or tones or facial expressions.  I have to believe we are developing skills that must, sooner or later, become useful in some other section of life 

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@izabsmiling wrote:

It takes guts to talk about such things

no guts at all is needed to have a go at people who do 

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Yes, it does take courage Iza.  

I think those who "have a go at people", "have a go" about the time and place not about the conversation, usually.

No thread should be "hard work".

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@darksideofthemoon wrote:

sorry Pepe,  I didn't realise you meant cyberbullying which I have experienced and hate. I suppose I was using your thread to talk about the coping skills of the depressed... I shouldn't have done that, but it does need to be said.

I will now always try and see exactly what you mean..  No I'm not being unpleasant, I will make that effort.  It's so hard to get a message across with only words and not gestures or tones or facial expressions.  I have to believe we are developing skills that must, sooner or later, become useful in some other section of life 

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its ok darki, i totally understand why you thought the way you did and why you thought i needed to be told.

[darksideofthemoon]

xx

[izabsmiling]

Freaki, the other posters personal view of what was happening was based on how she felt things were and what was happening.That view does not make it fact. It was an open discussion .So is this .I won't tell other posters what to do and not do...what they can post and can't post ..that is the Mods job and they are the only posters here with the Authority to do so.It would be nice if some posters could remember that...It gets tiring when it occurs constantly 

You want to state fact....please ask the moderators for that thread and do me the courtesy of asking me questions and allowing me to answer for myself...do not assume and put words in my mouth and thoughts in my head .Thanks

[freakiness]

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@izabsmiling wrote:

Freaki, the other posters personal view of what was happening was based on how she felt things were and what was happening.That view does not make it fact. It was an open discussion .So is this .I won't tell other posters what to do and not do...what they can post and can't post ..that is the Mods job and they are the only posters here with the Authority to do so.It would be nice if some posters could remember that...It gets tiring when it occurs constantly 

You want to state fact....please ask the moderators for that thread and do me the courtesy of asking me questions and allowing me to answer for myself...do not assume and put words in my mouth and thoughts in my head .Thanks

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Iza, I would never attempt to put words in your mouth or thoughts in your head. I just shared my observation is all and now I'll leave you to your thread.

[lloydslights]

And that is where this was closed by the moderator.  

I was in the middle of responding at the time, then pooft....the whole subject just disappeared for a while.

Sometimes people can sound quite abrupt at times in their manner of wording.  

It's not a race to answer a post. 

How about we all have a "softly softly" tone in our responses.  Pretend you are writing to "you".

Give ourselves a rule of procedure......type....take a cuppa....re-read...Is there compassion, empathy, a listening ear, comfort, a "perhaps" suggestion?....Post...........

Wait....wait.....read.........think.......respond by typing.....refreshment mouthful...re-read......and so on......

It took me over an hour to put my #95 post together and send;  and over an hour now.  Okay I'm slow at thinking, (plus prepared the veges for dinner).

I believe a bit more thought in the way in which one puts their thoughts into words is important.

We are not only assisting each other,  we well may be helping ourselves -  just by putting our thoughts into words.

People, it is a crazy world out there,and we are all part of it.  And sometimes our individual part, is crazy as.....

And sometimes, let's have some humour in there somewhere, let's cry with laughter.

I don't believe a Group is the way to go.  Let's get this malady out into the open. Just as all the varieties of Cancers are being talk about nowadays. 

DEB

BEHIND THE MASK - SOFTLY, SOFTLY