Envy

[soul_art]

Why is it that people seem to be becoming more envious of others?

Such a dislike of others wealth.  I can understand not liking a persons character if they are a braggart etc but to put people down becasue they have more than you is a waste of time and energy.

Thinking of how you would help this person, that group of people and use the money sooo much more wisely if YOU were wealthy.  I seem to read/hear this envy more and more and I have to wonder why.  jSurely part of becoming an adult is realising that life isn't fair....never has been and never will be so instead of stressing about how others use their wealth, be content with what you have, live your life to suit your circumstances, try to be a happy person and if you don't like your way of life, do something to change it.

not directed at anyone......just very much sick of the rubbish being heaped on anyone who is deemed "wealthy".

now I'm off to paint and be very happy that I can now afford to buy better quality paints eventhough I'm sure there are artists who can afford the VERY best paints made.

[the_great_she_elephant]

I think, also, we need to differentiate between eny and wishful thinking. However much we have or don't have it is human naturealways  to want the things that are just out of reach.

As an example:Mr Elephant and I have been sensible - and very lucky - in our financial decisions with the result that in retirement we have everything we need and enough left over for a few of the things we want.

We have two cars, a Mitzubishi Lancer and a Suzuki Alto - both of which we were able to buy brand new. However my secret dream is to  own a Jaguar. If I could afford to drive a Jaguar I would want a new house with an elegant, sweeping driveway to show it off to its best advantage. If I could afford such a house I would probably want a holiday home as well - something on the beachfront at Margaret River maybe. If I had that I would want a boat, so I could go fishing and once I had my little fishing boat I would probably start dreaming about a bigger one so I could do trips to Rottnest, and then...............  and so it goes on.We all do it and It's perfectly natural and harmless as long as we can separate fantasy from reality and understand the difference between what we need and  what we want.

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[just_me_karen]

Ok I see what you mean... Yes, that's probably an envious (or more likely insular) attitude

[soul_art]

Yes she el, think we all have our "lotto" dreams !

Mine is to have a house with studios/cottages in or around Maleny and have art workshops......I'm "envious" of people like you who are able to earn a living doing something they would do for free anyway.lol

I think what you say is true about wanting that little bit more but I also think when people spend to much time doing that, it causes unhappiness and discontent, which is why I think it's important to try to be happy with what you have right now.

[soul_art]

I've heard people say that too grandmoon.  Luck has little to do with it.

[soul_art]

and now I'm to finish a big painting I'm doing of rainbow trees.....if you haven't heard of them have a google......the most amazing trees and I'd like a few here but think I would spend far too much time just sitting and looking at them.

[boris1gary]

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@just_me_karen wrote:
Ok I see what you mean... Yes, that's probably an envious (or more likely insular) attitude

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Well I find the contempt shown to the poor, homeless and disadvantaged a lot more annoying and offensive, but that's just me.

[Anonymous]

Hi Soul

Maybe because of the widening divide? the haves and the have nots...

I'm a have not but I never get envious of what others have. but I see and hear it too. no specific examples for Karen either :P- you hear people whinging all the time about everything, its like **bleep** we have food water all sorts of bs billions of others dont- be grateful for what you have.

[boris1gary]

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@soul_art wrote:

Okay, I've thought of one example Karen.  A woman had her car scratched with a key or something similar, it was an expensive car think it was a mercedes, anyway a couple of the replies showed "envy" to me.

things like......well, she must be rich to have a car like that so what's the big deal, she can afford to fix it..

So yeah, lots of little things like that have stuck in my head and I seem to read them more and more.

and boris, I'm not going to discuss this with you as it's clear we have very different views and you are welcome to yours.

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Oh, OK then, I didn't realise the discussion was only for those in agreement.

[spotweldersfriend]

I tell you what she-ele.If you ever get down to the Isle of Capri,feel free to drop in and I'll take you sailing on my yacht.That's a promise.I hope you don't mind an all girl crew.:)

[freshwater-2]

I am positively green with envy......that I didn't inherit a squillion dollars