Hubby and I are separating - any advice welcome.

Hi all,
Hubby and I are separating after 27 years. We plan to stay on good terms and work together.
I am staying in the family home with my 2 youngest children. We own this house.
We are jointly buying a unit. He will live there. My oldest will live with him
They will move in 2 weeks

Any advice ?
How to manage / cope / budget / communicate
I am working 2 days a week and am not sure if I can continue this now but I suppose time will see

I know lots of others have done this before and want to avoid any mistakes or ugliness.

Thanks

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Re: Hubby and I are separating - any advice welcome.

Ash, sorry to hear about this. You both seem to be rational and have pretty much everything under control. My only suggestion is to get legal advice just to make sure that everything is covered. My first relationship ended after 26 years and I have no regrets other than I wish I had done it sooner. Good luck with everything and make sure that you take proper care of yourself.

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"There is nothing more; but I want nothing more." Christopher Hitchins
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@poddster wrote:

It might work as long as neither of you get involved with another partner. That might change your attitudes towards each other ๐Ÿ˜ž

 

I wish you luck


The best thing is not to get angry if decisions are made that go against what was originally agreed to.  Keep on an even keel and discuss things calmly as circumstances can change over time.

 

As for new partners, accept them but watch out that they don't try to influence existing arrangements to your detriment or your ex's.

 

My hubby and I separated many many years ago and despite hiccups and interference from others have managed to remain friends, though we don't keep in touch as much these days.  There are practical circumstances in our relationship that means we can't make the break so we work within it.

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I have never heard of that before. I must be living under a rock.

 

Why divorce ceremonies and 'conscious uncoupling' are all the rage

 

 

http://www.abc.net.au/radionational/programs/drive/i-now-pronounce-you-man-and-ex-wife/6428530

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