on 02-04-2009 01:05 PM
on 12-07-2012 10:45 PM
on 13-07-2012 02:08 AM
Wow Amy. What a kindred spirit you have found in Womblewa.
I've been following your journey since the start and while you have doubted yourself over the years, you have always come across as an intelligent loving daughter experiencing grief for such a long long time.We're not programmed to cope with what you are going through and yet you have been amazingly courageous and honest. You don't have to be strong for anyone because no-one could be expected to know what to do in your situation.
Womblewa's words are so very wise and I'd just like to say that while most on here wouldn't dream of knowing what you are going through, just remember there is no right or wrong way to be at this time. We can't tell you what you should or shouldn't be feeling or doing as you alone are the only one going through this. And you need to do what is right for you. Trust yourself Amy. I think I said some time ago that I hope you're not being too hard on yourself. You have done all you can and really, the only thing that is important for your mum is that she knows you love her. And of that there is no doubt. So when she does go you need to keep reminding yourself that she went knowing she is loved. That is all that you can wish for and you have done that.
I hope for you and your family's sake that things don't go on for much longer. And don't forget to take of you Amy. You deserve to be cared for and loved too.
on 13-07-2012 11:00 AM
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I have also decided to make a photo dvd of my Mum. I scanned all photos i have of her onto my pc and i haveher siblings in the UK and her friends in Sydney doing the same.
I dont have many though. I know there are heaps of photo albums at mums house but i cant ask dad to look through them. I dont think my sister could handle it either.
But, what i want to do is hopefully make a photo dvd and have that playing at her funeral while i read my Eulogy.
I told my hubby last night that i want to write a eulogy for her. He is just concerned that when the time comes i may not be able to read it out and then i'll be upset with myself
on 13-07-2012 11:05 AM
Amy if you can't read it you can always delegate someone to do that for you.
on 13-07-2012 11:26 AM
on 13-07-2012 01:40 PM
I was not comfortable with speaking at either of my parent's funerals. In both cases my husband did a reading that my mother had always liked and my eldest daughter delivered a eulogy.
They both did far better than I could ever have done.
Of course my daughter was 26 when her grandmother died and 37 when my father passed away, so I realise that would not be possible in your case...your kiddies are way too young.
on 17-07-2012 08:44 AM
on 25-07-2012 08:48 AM
Dad says Mum is not "here". He says she doesnt respond to him at all anymore since her hospital stay.
In other news, Dad has 2 doctors coming to see Mum next month. They are from the "other side" in regards to the case dad has against Blackpool council. They are supposed to be seeing if Mum has improved at all
on 26-07-2012 09:08 AM
Apparently dads case went before the magistrate last month, at which time the "other side" claimed they needed more time to gather medical evidence (5 years hasnt been long enough apparently)
The magistrate has given them until early December and thats why Mum will have 2 doctors coming to see her over the next 2 months.
on 26-07-2012 09:16 AM
Unfortunately it is a game to the Insurance companies Amy, they will use any underhanded tactic to delay court procedings. Not than any result will change your Mum's condition.