OMG What a day!

[lurker172602]

We moved OHs parents into a nursing home today.  She doesn't really want to go but recognises it's necessary, but he is very angry and is not hesitant about telling anyone and everyone he doesn't want or need to be there.  

Stress levels are through the roof!  Wine is helping 

[moonflyte]

I'm sorry to hear about your sister icy. Old age is not for sissies. 

[icyfroth]

It's horrible to see some of the wrecks there that would have once been vibrant and active young people. Nature is so cruel to keep the heart beating long after the mind has vacated the premises.

What's the point of politicians touting a longer life expectancy when life is no longer worth living other than to keep the Medical and Pharmaceutical Industry afloat?

[ooak3]

soo true icy !!!

just because the heart is still beating doesn"t  equal  LIFE

[lurker172602]

Oh that's a bit harsh. They are quite capable of living happy, enjoyable lives. They just can't do it without assistance  and the best place for that is in a nursing home.  

We left them alone yesterday, but are going over this morning to take them to mass and then out to lunch, which has been their usual Sunday routine.  We'll see how it goes.

[ooak3]

lurker 

i did not mean that every old person who has slowed up a bit should be knocked off I would be top of that list haha !!!!

theres different degrees of how bad a person becomes ill and i for one do not want to be still ticking if i am in pain or have to have someone else feed and wipe my bum for me 

[icyfroth]

I'm sure your in-laws will be fine, Lurks. I was just making general observations.

There are quite a few functioning people in the nursing homes I've seen, that enjoy all the activities and have their families visit.

[ooak3]

i had a adopted Auntie in one and she LOVED it 

she was never been a driver and realy loved all the outings and day trips they had she got ' out " more than most people 

but thank goodness she was one of the lucky ones her health was good and boy she was as bright as a button 

then wham she got lung cancer ( she had never smoked ) she died not very long after 

[lurker172602]

Today went fairly well, although they seemed a little more confused than usual, but I think that's probably as a result of the changes they have made.

They like their new priest and loved the restaurant we took them to, so that was all good.  There were a few tears when we took them back to the home, but they brightened up when I told them we'd bring our #2 son with us next time we came to visit in a few days time.

We're going to leave them alone until Wednesday, hopefully to help them settle in a bit better.

[lionrose.7]

My friend and I have planed our escape already incase it happens to us, we are going to do a Thelma and Louise.

I told my children long ago to put me in a home if I start losing it, after seeing my husbands Mother and what her Daughter went through to keep her home.

[youcandoityoucandoityoucandoit]

Lurker, glad to read today wasnt too bad..just wondering, #2 son isnt the father of one of the LPs, is he?

I imagine the LPs would be welcome too