Stalking

[grandmoon]

How many phone calls a day do you think constitutes stalking ??

[creative*crisis]

any if they've been asked to desist

[nevynreally]

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@grandmoon wrote:

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@imastawka wrote:

Problem is - if it's his daughter too, then he has to be contactable

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Yes she is his daughter and they have shared custody

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Screen the calls, or all calls go through you. She hasn't let go, obviously, but can't be totally blocked.

[lind9650]

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@nevillesdaughter wrote:

He might be better off getting some relationship counselling (ideally together with his former partner) to sort out the real issues. Obviously there is unfinished business pertaining to the relationship and it needs to be dealt with before it's the child who pays the real price.

Marina.

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I agree with the councelling to sort her out.

Many phonecalls are not stalking, but harrassment, and that is also illegal. An answering machine to record her calls would be useful to prove that she is calling that often. Otherwise it is her word against his, even for a Counceller.

Erica

[azureline**]

I don't believe that is stalking. More like unresolved issues.

[imastawka]

Bottom line is - it's a friend not family.

You can't solve their problems.

Ultimately, it's not your problem and offering advice may be unwelcome.

Just sayin'

[ca04]

Put the phone down by the TV and let them argue it out with the idiotbox.

[***super_nova***]

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@grandmoon wrote:

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 Young friends ex will ring him up between 6 and 20 times a day.

Sometimes asking for his help with  the daughter, or needing money, asking to move back in with her or just to abuse him.

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It just depends.  If she rings and he does not answer the phone, or does not listen, tells her he is too busy and hangs up, and she calls back and tries to have the issue resolved that is not stalking or harassment.   If she has to call 6 - 20x before he even answers a call from her, that just means he is not dealing with the issues.  So I would not blame her for being cross after a while.    I think counseling would be useful.

[gleee58]

You're only getting his side of the story.  Have you known him for a long time?  

People can be good at hiding their true self.

[grandmoon]

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@***super_nova*** wrote:

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@grandmoon wrote:

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 Young friends ex will ring him up between 6 and 20 times a day.

Sometimes asking for his help with  the daughter, or needing money, asking to move back in with her or just to abuse him.

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It just depends.  If she rings and he does not answer the phone, or does not listen, tells her he is too busy and hangs up, and she calls back and tries to have the issue resolved that is not stalking or harassment.   If she has to call 6 - 20x before he even answers a call from her, that just means he is not dealing with the issues.  So I would not blame her for being cross after a while.    I think counseling would be useful.

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The issue that can not be resolved is that she wants he to move back into the house with her and he doesn't want to. 

Should he give in to her ??

[grandmoon]

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@gleee58 wrote:

You're only getting his side of the story.  Have you known him for a long time?  

People can be good at hiding their true self.

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Yes I have know him and his mother for about 15 years.  We meet in a grief support group.  He and his mother joined after both his brothers were killed in a car accident.  The younger of the 2 brothers was his twin.