Stressed and very upset at the moment

[hahahavefun]

I have been living in a unit with my 17 yr old daughter for 9 months ,and 3 months agi had her boyfriend move in ( he is so so quiet that i even have trouble hearing at times when he talks ) when I looked at the unit I was told it can be very noisy due to the kids and I said im fine with that as I have grandkids and has been really great till just recently.
One one side I had neighbours with a new born baby and a 3 old the childrens bedroom right next to my daughters and on the other side a single mum with a 4 and 5 yr olds .
The couple with the 2 youngest kids moved to Sydney about 8 weeks ago and I got a new lady id say early to mid 60's in .
We spoke when she first moved in and I told her im hearing impaired with a moderate to servere hearing loss , that we don't get phone reception inside so have to go outside to make or answer calls .
We also had a discussion about what bedroom she was going to use she was saying she didnt know whether to use the front one or the back one, I said well Jess my daughter has the front one which is adjoining to ger front one and I also stated that being at the front that is the main entry way for my unit and the back unit and its where visitors come in so people will be walking past . She chose the front one .
She came to me a couple of weeks ago complaining of my daughters tv being to loud and when she has a friend over they are to loud , she will accept noise up till 10pm and told me that maybe my daughter and I should swap rooms .
Last weekend one of my nieces come for the weekend as she just found out an aunty on her fathers side has cancer and wanted to get away , she was supposed to ring her mum 8n the Saturday night and forgot so her mum rang her at 10pm and she had to go outside to take the call next the the lady next door comes barging out her front door having ago at me niece telling her how rude she was being on the phone outside her bedroom and to get off the phone and go back inside . Her mum could hear this and said img what is her problem . 2 nights later she was bashing on my front door then my daughters window telling her to turn the TV down .
On Friday i got an email from the real estate about noise complaints and if its not rectified i will get a breach and if it continues i will be asked to leave .
Im very upset in 35 yrs of renting i have never had one complaint against me ever and nor was then any from the previous tennants .
My daughter is loud always has been having grown up in a hearing impaired family and not only her but everyone talks a lot louder because of this but to us its normal 😩
I tell my daughter to please lower her volume and she does really try but she just automatically goes back to normal .
I feel i will be asked to leave eventually because of this 😢 and all because of my deafness .

I have to go see Real Estate but no matter what is said i cant change the fact im deaf nor the fact my daughter speaks or laughs loud or that we have to have the TV up a bit louder which has been the normal way of life for ys .

Sorry for the long post i just needed to get this off my chest . Feeling very stressed and emotional.

[fo-trut]

lind9650 is there anything i post that you don't have to complain about?

And remember, you have the clear choice to not read my replies. In fact, I would prefer it.

[jimmy*part4]

The sound that travels through walls is the bass. Most can be adjusted, if so, turning the bass down should do the trick.

If not...maybe an external speaker connected to the TV, then placed next to the bed.

[kopenhagen5]

I would also print out a copy of what you have written here and direct it at the Agent, explaining that you would like them to hear the true story. Then send a copy to the agent.

The agent may eventually work out the older woman could be a trouble maker and side with you.

[hahahavefun]

My daughter being pregnant has nothing to do with this i mearly stated this as there will be a crying baby to add to the noise problem .
Jimmy I wish my daughters voice had a volume button 😕 i could adjust

[go-tazz]

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@kopenhagen5 wrote:

The agent may eventually work out the older woman could be a trouble maker and side with you.

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If she is doing this now then she may have done it in the past.

If you see the Agent maybe they could check on her previous behaviour,(from the agent they rented from

previously).

[imastawka]

What about getting the single mum on the other side to back you up.

Ask her if she can tell the agent that you're not a problem, but the old lady is?

[amber-eyed-girl]

I agree with youcan.

Write a letter to the agent. If there is a specific person who knows you at the Agency, address it to them.

Highlight you have been a good tenant, and that you spoke with the other tenant early on about your situation.

The agent, then might speak to the lady on your behalf.

Good luck. You don't need the stress and neither does your daughter right now...if your neighbour continues to be like this, you may have no option but to put yourself first and ask the agent for somewhere else. Not ideal, I know...noone should be essentially forced out by someone else.

But take a look at your current place, think about what living arrangements will be with your daughter when the child arrives, and ask her what she might wish to do, also.

How does the father of the child feel? Does he want to live with your daughter, with you, after the baby, or will they want their own place?

So in a way, your daughter's pregnancy is part of things here. Maybe, you will need less space, or more, soon.

How they feel might be an important part of any decision.

I need to go outside to make calls, too. So I understand you need to. Congratulations on the baby and I hope everything works out.

[happyroo_bunji]

Get your daughter to buy a set of wireless headphones to watch her tv, I know you shouldn't have to, but for under $50 it would be worth it.

I am partially deaf, but certain tones and pitches of sound go through me like fingernails on a blackboard, so what sounds ok to you and your daughter could be extremely annoying to others.

Another thing and I'm not sure if it's been mentioned yet (apologies if it has) you are planning to move at the end of this year, talk to the RE agent and see if you can end your lease early without any costs to you.  They might be willing, its worth a try.

[hahahavefun]

My daughter and her boyfriend are happy for us to get a 3 bedroom house once the lease is up , i said i will stay as long as it takes to see that they can cope and they are ok to go it alone . My daughter is brilliant with babies and kids . She has a disable sister who is 35 on her fathers side who has the mentality of a 3 yr old and my daughter handles this extremely well and has been an aunty since the age of 7 . ( I had a big break between the last 2 kids )

The single mum moved out shortly after this new lady moved in to get a house for her 2 kids.

[icyfroth]

Wait till your daughter has the baby. Then she can get a single mother's pension and apply for housing in her own right.

Then the boyfriend can move in with her.

Is he on a  Newstart allowance?  If yes they should have no problems making ends meet.

Then you can enjoy your unit and have peace with the neighbours and go and babysit your grandchild over at your daughter's place.