Stressed and very upset at the moment

[hahahavefun]

I have been living in a unit with my 17 yr old daughter for 9 months ,and 3 months agi had her boyfriend move in ( he is so so quiet that i even have trouble hearing at times when he talks ) when I looked at the unit I was told it can be very noisy due to the kids and I said im fine with that as I have grandkids and has been really great till just recently.
One one side I had neighbours with a new born baby and a 3 old the childrens bedroom right next to my daughters and on the other side a single mum with a 4 and 5 yr olds .
The couple with the 2 youngest kids moved to Sydney about 8 weeks ago and I got a new lady id say early to mid 60's in .
We spoke when she first moved in and I told her im hearing impaired with a moderate to servere hearing loss , that we don't get phone reception inside so have to go outside to make or answer calls .
We also had a discussion about what bedroom she was going to use she was saying she didnt know whether to use the front one or the back one, I said well Jess my daughter has the front one which is adjoining to ger front one and I also stated that being at the front that is the main entry way for my unit and the back unit and its where visitors come in so people will be walking past . She chose the front one .
She came to me a couple of weeks ago complaining of my daughters tv being to loud and when she has a friend over they are to loud , she will accept noise up till 10pm and told me that maybe my daughter and I should swap rooms .
Last weekend one of my nieces come for the weekend as she just found out an aunty on her fathers side has cancer and wanted to get away , she was supposed to ring her mum 8n the Saturday night and forgot so her mum rang her at 10pm and she had to go outside to take the call next the the lady next door comes barging out her front door having ago at me niece telling her how rude she was being on the phone outside her bedroom and to get off the phone and go back inside . Her mum could hear this and said img what is her problem . 2 nights later she was bashing on my front door then my daughters window telling her to turn the TV down .
On Friday i got an email from the real estate about noise complaints and if its not rectified i will get a breach and if it continues i will be asked to leave .
Im very upset in 35 yrs of renting i have never had one complaint against me ever and nor was then any from the previous tennants .
My daughter is loud always has been having grown up in a hearing impaired family and not only her but everyone talks a lot louder because of this but to us its normal 😩
I tell my daughter to please lower her volume and she does really try but she just automatically goes back to normal .
I feel i will be asked to leave eventually because of this 😢 and all because of my deafness .

I have to go see Real Estate but no matter what is said i cant change the fact im deaf nor the fact my daughter speaks or laughs loud or that we have to have the TV up a bit louder which has been the normal way of life for ys .

Sorry for the long post i just needed to get this off my chest . Feeling very stressed and emotional.

[go-tazz]

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@hahahavefun wrote:

The single mum moved out shortly after this new lady moved in to get a house for her 2 kids.

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Did the new "lady" have anything to do with that?

That may give the Agent cause for concern that she's at fault,eg: a bully trying to force others out?

[Anonymous]

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@icyfroth wrote:

Wait till your daughter has the baby. Then she can get a single mother's pension and apply for housing in her own right.

Then the boyfriend can move in with her.

Is he on a  Newstart allowance?  If yes they should have no problems making ends meet.

Then you can enjoy your unit and have peace with the neighbours and go and babysit your grandchild over at your daughter's place.

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how about the father getting

a job and supporting his family?

to get a single mothers pension

she would have to lie about not being

in a relationship with the baby's 

father  

[hahahavefun]

Icyfroth the baby isnt due till December and my daughter will be 18 at the end of January next yr . She is old enough legally to sign a lease and government housing lists are yrs and yrs long .

The problem is here and now .

[youcandoityoucandoityoucandoit]

To keep on topic...

haha, you seem v reasonable to me. Im wondering if this woman is over reacting/ overly sensitive to noise..

There could be many reasons for this- she might be unused to living alone, she might be highly strung, she might have any number of illnesses or worries. But these arent your concern, unless she wants to confide in them to you. Its a real shame that she went to the RE and made a complaint, being able to overhear someones phone call, being able to hear someones tv?  sheesh, Im just wondering where on earth shes been living before now..?

See if you can have a calm talk to the RE- Im sure theyve dealt with this over and over, and explain to them you spoke to her, but feel its unreasonable that she bangs on your windows, and makes a complaint about noise when its over the top, and your good tenant history backs you up..You might find that the RE have already pegged her behaviour..Im eyerolling here- she might find that to complain about something so minor gives her a bad rep..(as a p.i.t.a)

Try and take it easy..

[imastawka]

Looks like Icy thinks public housing is avaliable at the drop of a hat,  lol

[donnashuggy]

My daughter left home at 17 and pregnant and went through this very same thing with an unreasonable neighbour. I would be very happy to share how we approached the unreasonable neighbour and how we dealt with it.

[donnashuggy]

The agent is doing their job and some people just specialize in complaining:

Dear xxxxx
 
We refer to your letter dated November 6th regarding the Noise Complaint. We feel obliged to refute some of the claims as they are unfounded.
 
We don't drag items across the floor, unless you are referring to wheeling the pram with our baby in it? Not what we would call excessive noise. Nor do we turn up the volume of music or television when she cries and find this to be a very strange comment given the fact that xxxx has been studying for exams intensely for the last few weeks.

We would just like this letter to be viewed and stored by you in case it should ever be required to prove this person's (let's be kind) unrealistic expectations regarding the use of our toilet.  Could you please inform the owner that we do close the bathroom door when it is in use. The 'person' responsible for this complaint has demonstrated no evidence of any reasonable attitudes.
 
 
At this stage we have received nothing in writing to illustrate to us that our concerns have been taken seriously, could this be addressed please? xxxxxx, the owner below us disturbs our peace, comfort and privacy and we feel that she is trying to drive us out of our home. We would like to advise that we will be seeking advice again from Tenancy Advice and Advocacy Services to see what can be done about this type of harassment. She has shown no desire to “get along” or compromise. The constant peering in our window makes us feel uncomfortable.
 
We will continue to be respectful of the local residents and keep the noise to a minimum, we only ask that the same respect for our comfort, peace and privacy be returned.

Thanks very much,

[donnashuggy]

This neighbour was from hell, she used to complain she could hear my daughters partner going to the loo. I told him he should stand elevated lol.

[hahahavefun]

Thankyou everyone so much for your comments . Its just very sad its come to this because when she first moved in we thought she was lovely and i thought this is great i have someone I can have a chat to but now she has been avoiding me .

The real estate or my neighbour dont know my daughter is pregnant yet as I have been waiting for her to reach the 12 week mark but I will tell the agent and ask if its possible to move into a house as soon as they have one we can afford because im honest enough to say the noise issue will not go away .

[jimmy*part4]

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@hahahavefun wrote:
Thankyou everyone so much for your comments . Its just very sad its come to this because when she first moved in we thought she was lovely and i thought this is great i have someone I can have a chat to but now she has been avoiding me .

The real estate or my neighbour dont know my daughter is pregnant yet as I have been waiting for her to reach the 12 week mark but I will tell the agent and ask if its possible to move into a house as soon as they have one we can afford because im honest enough to say the noise issue will not go away .

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I'm not one for taking undeserved guff from anyone, but being in your position I might.

Even though you don't owe it to her...you might consider apologizing for the noise and point out how you are trying to limit the noise.

Sort of letting her think she has the upper hand....at least for now.

Maybe if she knows you are going to move soon anyway, she might back off.

Reminds me of a place I rented. It didn't matter what time I went to sleep...soon as I started to drift off the guy in the apartment below me would close his reclining chair. The best way I could describe the sound....a person falling down 5 steps of the stairs.

It would jar me awake...every single night...sheer torture.

With the rising cost of living and shortage of affortable housing all new housing being built for the last few years are apartment buldings. The noise, the parking issues (people taking your spots, hitting your door with theirs denting it)....what a nightmare.

Good luck finding a house HaHa <the poster...I'm not laughing, lol.