@janeababe wrote:
@martinw-48 wrote:
Why is it so bad?
Is it just that misery loves company.
That no one should have an easy out.
That you must suffer with the rest of us.
I actually benifited from suicide.
If my father hadn't killed himself I'd have had to kill him.
I couldn't live any longer under his control.
What is it with people that you must suffer from the same things that they hate.
I have been whinged at for years for not having gotten married and having children.
Even by total strangers.
The exception is that some men tell me that I'm extremely smart.
That they wished that they'd never married and they can be either still married or divorced.
I actually understand why people kill themselves.
Why constantly suffer just because someone else who hasn't ever been able to make your life better get to keep you suffering.
They always claim that they could of helped but how do they really know.
It could be that those who claim that they could have helped make the departed life better were the very one's that the departed wanted to get away from.
Suicide does not fix the problem. It merely moves your profound grief, onto those who remain behind. They then carry this burden with them for the rest of their lives, thatโs why society says that suicide is a selfish act.
I too, know what itโs like to have an uncaring, unloving, physically violent and abusive mother!
I also know what itโs like to be so depressed, that suicide is an optional thought! Iโve planned my suicide approximately 3 times in my life time, and I was only 14 the first time. August this year, was the last time! Iโm now, 52. (Just quietly, this has been the worst year Iโve ever lived through..... it was tough and I truly truly struggled with it)
What stops me is that I know too well, first hand, what the long lasting outcome is.... Iโm also living that outcome!
I have worked very very hard to NOT be my mother! I work very hard to stay focused on life and move forward, even if it is slowly, forward is still forward.
Iโve spent my entire career, helping others, and now I teach others.
But thereโs absolutely no point in complaining about your own life if you are not prepared to help yourself! If you canโt help yourself, then be prepared to seek help from others. If you donโt find what youโre after, then keep looking until you do find it, because there is always someone who knows how you feel, who can relate and there is always someone who understands without judgement! For me, I broke down and confided in my Aunty, seeked her help. She saved me, THANK GOD.
Strength does not come from what we battle, it comes from what we survive! I refuse to be a victim! I just refuse.
Im a survivor! And I bloody intend to stay that way for a long time yet!
Suicide is vastly different to euthanasia though..... as it currently stands, legally. Only the terminally ill can access legal euthanasia laws.
Assisted suicide is illegal too..... and Iโm not sure it should be. But it certainly needs to be monitored for legal reasons. Otherwise I could easily assist my mother to suicide...accidentally on purpose! ๐ก
....... But thatโs a different convo for another time.
I donโt usually reveal too much about myself, but mental health issues should be talked about openly. How can others get help, if itโs taboo to talk about it?
Keep talking about it! โค๏ธโค๏ธ
