Why is it most women change their last name after getting married?

[the_bob_delusion]

Why?

[nevynreally]

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@the_bob_delusion wrote:

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@i-need-a-martini wrote:

False sense of romance and just plain dumbness!

That's why I did and have regretted it enormously since.

It's also a subliminal acceptance of mens superiority that has been drummed into us for so long.

Ironically this is a particularly western idea. Italian women keep their surnames for example. I don't know why I didn't follow the examples set by my ancestors and relatives. 

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Yeah, it does make women somewhat of a subordinate. I wonder why in the feministic 21st century, there's not a kafuffle about it. 

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Does there have to be? Most women change their surname to their partners for future children, some because it's just been tradition, some because they're escaping a hard to spell and/or pronounce surname, and some to escape full stop. Surely in this day and age it should not be questioned what a woman choses to do?

[the_bob_delusion]

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@nevynreally wrote:

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@the_bob_delusion wrote:

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@i-need-a-martini wrote:

False sense of romance and just plain dumbness!

That's why I did and have regretted it enormously since.

It's also a subliminal acceptance of mens superiority that has been drummed into us for so long.

Ironically this is a particularly western idea. Italian women keep their surnames for example. I don't know why I didn't follow the examples set by my ancestors and relatives. 

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Yeah, it does make women somewhat of a subordinate. I wonder why in the feministic 21st century, there's not a kafuffle about it. 

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Does there have to be? Most women change their surname to their partners for future children, some because it's just been tradition, some because they're escaping a hard to spell and/or pronounce surname, and some to escape full stop. Surely in this day and age it should not be questioned what a woman choses to do?

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Surely in this day and age, it should not be questioned when a women chose to wear a burka. Some because it's just been tradition. 

[lionrose.7]

I had a hyphenated name for a few years in business but signing so many papers with my full name there never seemed to be enough room so I gave it up, 🙂

[j*oono]

I did because I wanted my name to be the same as my childrens and I didn't want hyphenated names.  I regret it too.  It's not that I feel subservient, I just don't feel like a xxxxxxxxxx.  I feel like a xxxxxx.

Waiting for Richo to say he feels like a XXXX

[rabbitearbandicoot]

I have a friend who has been married 3 times - you can imagine her name complete with hyphens.

[lurker172602]

I changed my name because I didn't have any emotional attachment to my father or his family name, and my mother had already changed hers following her second marriage.

I do however believe there should be no compunction for a woman to change her name and I don't think there is these days.  Personal choice. I wouldn't be at all surprised if our middle son, should he ever decided to marry, didn't change his name to his wife's.  ours is a bit tricky to spell

[cherry*135]

Why is it most women change their last name after getting married?

Do they mostly still do that now? A lot keep their maiden name,as they are known by it for work and don't change it.

Some revert back to their maiden name after divorce.

[nevynreally]

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@the_bob_delusion wrote:

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@nevynreally wrote:

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@the_bob_delusion wrote:

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@i-need-a-martini wrote:

False sense of romance and just plain dumbness!

That's why I did and have regretted it enormously since.

It's also a subliminal acceptance of mens superiority that has been drummed into us for so long.

Ironically this is a particularly western idea. Italian women keep their surnames for example. I don't know why I didn't follow the examples set by my ancestors and relatives. 

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Yeah, it does make women somewhat of a subordinate. I wonder why in the feministic 21st century, there's not a kafuffle about it. 

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Does there have to be? Most women change their surname to their partners for future children, some because it's just been tradition, some because they're escaping a hard to spell and/or pronounce surname, and some to escape full stop. Surely in this day and age it should not be questioned what a woman choses to do?

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Surely in this day and age, it should not be questioned when a women chose to wear a burka. Some because it's just been tradition. 

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Wrong thread.

this one is about married names, did you forget? Or is it only now your real agenda coming out?

[cherry*135]

People with hyphenated names were a bit snobby, from my recollections as a child.. They had the biggest best house/farm (with a pool) etc.. kids went to private school.

One of my rellies hyphenated our ancestors European surname and her 2nd husbands surname, after they got married. Gives us a giggle.

[lyne-flyn]

I have a friend whose mother in law was overjoyed when he said he would take his wife's surname when they married.

There was only his fiancée and her sister and their mother hated the thought of their name dying out.

She changed her mind though when the penny finally dropped.

His name is Richard and she was horrified when she realised that everyone called him Dick...his wife's maiden name was Puller.