@joz*garage wrote:
@**freethinker_bob** wrote:
@joz*garage wrote:
i dont believe some people choose to be single [deep down everybody wants a partner ..dont they?] its just that they dont have a choice - its just the way it is & learn to live with it
I've read this a few times now. It's the most profound thing I've read from you Joz'. I've read the other response and that still hasn't contradicted your assertion. You get one of my rare Kudos.
THe question is not can you still be happy being single.
other response? other response? I don't think i made another reply...what do you mean bob? i havent read all relpys on here too [i'm in slack mode atm]
I assume on your bottom line theres a typo, so it should be "THe question is can you still be happy being single"?
it would be hard to give a general answer to that, due to eveyones different in handling their aloneness
I think it does go against human nature to be alone as we're social affectionate creatures but we have the ability to cope with being alone if the situation arose if our environment, unbringing or abuse led us that way. we'd be kidding ourselves if we didnt admit to ourselves we still desire a companion from time to time at the least, and i bet to all loners it would be a dream to find a long term soul mate.
personally, relationships have never worked for me, because from feeling no sense of love from my parents, which resulted in me having enough of a job dealing or coping for myself....so for me its easier to be alone....(would a potenial partner want someone who can only manage to cope with their own life & who has difficulties in recieving affection? they say theres a match made for everyone..hmm..mebbe
you get to know your limitations.
I would prefer to be happily married with kids...you'd live longer. but, i have learnt to be content with being alone too.
I didn't know your situation Joz', but if know your predicament, who's to say you can't change or overcome it. ???
From an evolutionary point of view. if the aim is just to propogate the species. You obviously need a partner to procreate. THan it occured to me you can also do that being single. So I guess coupling up isn't a requirement for evolution.
