**AUTISM / ASPERGERS SUPPORT GROUP**

[doll*obsession]

A safe place for all members with friends or family with ASD

Come and have a cuppa, share your joys, and vent your problems with other people who understand.

[sheepy_1-4]

Dolls, just a quick note to confirm that I and everyone else on here understands what you are going through and we are all here for you and your little fella. When things are like they are with your life at the moment - OF COURSE your focus is on your little guy - I'm sure I speak for everyone - but we do get that it is hard to focus on others - especially for us Aspies. With school holidays near and you living kind of near, would you like to see if we can meet at a Mc Donalds somewhere inbetween? I might even be able to get near Brissy if that will help - sometimes all you need is another warm body that understands.
love and hugs - Kylie

[gshepherd510]

This is for you dolly



I too have been through similar thing's with my older two re: Doctor's, specialist's etc......

Some day's I would feel like I just couldn't face anyone and would want to be left alone by everyone.

I hope life gets easier for everyone very soon :-x


I would like to have just one day where nothing went wrong.

I will update you on Master 15 when he gets back mid next week. I don't miss him yet...is that normal?

[mapalarkin]

Evening all

Well this afternoon on our way home from literacy class darcy out of the blue said that he doesnt want to go on Bathurst excursion.I knew deep down that he wouldnt go but I keep up the positive talk about it but he has changed his mind.He told me he didnt want to have to get up so early but then I asked him the real reason and he said he didnt want to leave us.I asked him how he felt when he went away with Aunty Kim and Uncle Steve and he said thats ok cause uncle Steve is there.I am going to let school know tomorrow and thank heavens I didnt pay all the money out for it.

[sheepy_1-4]

mapalarkin, I'm in a rush now, so can't explain, but IMO for his long term gain - I really think that he should go. School camp is apart of growing up

[islandretro]

It can be a really negative experience as well for a sensitive Aspergers child who is the target of bullying. I have heard some horror stories over the years 😞

He is only little and if he isn't comfortable don't force him.

Mr16 went a music camp in Yr 4, he had a very confusing time, didn't enjoy it at all; the next camp he went to was in Yr 10 and by then he was able to overcome a great many confronting situations he couldn't when he was little, including climbing a massive rock outcrop called the Buttress, and getting stuck halfway due to his pathological fear of heights. (he got up to the top with a lot of help and support from the other kids and leaders) He also ended up in hospital for week on his return with Salmonella, but he remembers the camp with great fondness, unlike the one when he was little.

If I had my time over again I would never have sent him when he was younger.
cheers
Rae

[doll*obsession]

Thank you all so much for your support, It means more to me than i can say :-x
and your stories of trying to get a diagnosis- my gosh! why the heck is it so difficult? its like the so called 'specialists' are afraid of an ASD diagnosis, but happy to put the poor kids under a differant hat that doesnt fit.
Kylie, it would be great to meet you- I will admit it will be difficult for me at first (a person i dont realy know, in a town i dont know.... you get the idea!) but once I have met you and settled into the surroundings i should be fine 🙂
since joe went on a train on the weekend he has been obsessed with them, he has even changed his grunting and humming to a rhythmic "chugga chugga choo choo!" lol, he is such a sweetheart :-x his grandma went out the next day and bought him a trainset :^O he loves it!
I spent a couple of hours talking to my dad yesterday, something i dont do often enough. we spoke at length about aspergers, his traits, my traits and joes traits. there are things that i didnt even realise i did untill i was talking to dad, because alot of it is subconcious, so i dont even realise im doing it.

My hubby and I have been planning baby number 3, but with joseph an aspie, and tahlia looking more and more aspie, Im hesitating now. I can see that tahlia is going to be more of a handful than joe, she always already is. what will number 3 be like? will it be an aspie like its siblings, mother, grandfather, great grandfather.. I dont even know how far back it goes.. should i risk it? Im not so sure, it can be such a burden for the child to live with... Im not looking for you guys to give me the answers, you cant. Im just venting, and thinking 'out loud'.

[gshepherd510]

Dolly, my 3rd has nothing wrong with her. It's just the older two.

Mind you though there is an 11 yr age gap between my son and miss 4.

I reckon if you want another child go for it because I had miss 4 when I was 38 and I wouldn't have anymore now, but I always wished I had more children when my older two were little.

[gshepherd510]

Forgot to mention........

See, I got a "normal" child but didn't know if she was "normal" as she does all the things the other two never did as little one's.

I think I have a lot to learn..........

[doll*obsession]

your right lisa, there is every chance that number 3 might not be an aspie- and even if they are its not the end of the world is it? it was hard for me at school, but i get by ok now, i dont have many friends, but those i do have are genuine ones. I think that is true for many aspies, an aspie life doesnt have to be a lonely life.

I have just been image googling looking for a new profile pic for facebook, i found this and it gave me a giggle 🙂
http://hats.cafepress.com/item/i-love-someone-with-aspergers-trucker-hat/32663623

[doll*obsession]

> Forgot to mention........
>
> See, I got a "normal" child but didn't know if she was "normal" as she does all the things the other two never did as little one's.
>
> I think I have a lot to learn..........


Lisa, My favourite quote is just two words:
"define normal"