**AUTISM / ASPERGERS SUPPORT GROUP**

[doll*obsession]

A safe place for all members with friends or family with ASD

Come and have a cuppa, share your joys, and vent your problems with other people who understand.

[sheepy_1-4]

maybe his homework is too hard for him
can he do it in the morning?
can he take his meds a bit later so that they are still in effect after school?

the important thing at his age IMO is not so much what he is doing for homework, but learning the skills and discipline to be able to do it in high school.

if you are battling with getting homework getting done, you need to back off a bit (bot that hurt to say that) because he is learning bad behaviours. Pretty soon he will just automatically "turn off" the moment he thinks about homework. Is an educational psychologist an option? Neither he nor you should have to be tormented by this.

[krazy.kiwi]

We have regular meltdowns here because of homework too. 😞

And you are more than welcome in here witches :-x

[witches*wol]

Thanks Kiwi :-x

Kylie ~ It's hard to explain it's not that he refuses to do it, just that is stresses him out so much. I don't need to nail his foot to the floor to get him started, lol but he stresses about how long it will take him (usually thinks it will take longer than it does) He had to make a Hat for the hat parade and he hates parades and really didn't want to make a hat to be in a "stupid hat parade" (his words)

The homework isn't too hard and we generally do it together so he's not stuck on his own with it.

He gets his Ritalin at 8:30am and I really can't give it to him any later than that. It's usually 3:50pm when we get home from school in the afternoon.

LOL at doing homework in the morning this boy is not a morning person by a long shot and just getting him up & dressed for school is a challenge. He eats breaky in the car on the way most days cause he dilly dallies around and just can't focus on getting himself ready on time.

Other problem we are having is the school tried the "Have a go" approach with him for his school work, because he would just sit there and not attempt to do anything if he didn't fully understand it. So for over a year they have been saying to him "Just have a go, doesn't matter if it is wrong just have a go" and that has been good... but... they now think they may have pushed him too far on that especially when it comes to math. If you totally have no clue as to where to even begin to solve the math question how can you "have a go"? But because he's been told to "Have a go" he now isn't saying "Look I don't understand the question at all please help me?" ARRRGGGHHHH
So now they are back to trying to get him to ask for help if he doesn't understand and he is confused because they've been so insistant on "Have a go" *Sigh*

[mapalarkin]

Hi all.
It must have been the meltdown day for our boys yesterday.Darcy had a meltdown when the bell went to come home.Ive been letting him walk with his freind home from school and his freind was sick and he got so confused about what to do he lost it emotionally.He went to the office and they did nothing.No one wanted to help my son.Parents and teachers walked past and couldnt be bothered.It took the actions of 2 young 10yr olds that know Darcy to calm him down.These boys then walked him home.He never said a word about it to me and if it wasnt for one of the boys mums telling me in Coles this morning I wouldnt know.Im so angry with the school right now and first thing Monday i will be there and god help them.Im trying to let him be more independant and things like this happen and sets him back.As of Monday he will carry his mobile with him to school and they can fight me on it but I wont back down.At least with his mobile he can call me since the school wont if something like this happens again.

[witches*wol]

Geez mapalarkin ~ What the hell is wrong with the office people in your school? The 2 office ladies at my sons school are awesome in the way they look after kids who's parents haven't come to get them or are running late or if they are supossed to go home with a friend who isn't there. I've be laying a complaint on Monday and yes defiunately give your son a Mobile so he can call you. ((hugs))

[bella_again]

mapalarkin, how awful I agree with Witches totally unacceptable aside from the fact they have a duty of care to your son. I am so sorry you are going through the stress of this. I would definitely speak to the school and consider lodging a complaint.

*shaking my head in total disbelief at the incompetence of some poeple*

Witchy hello 🙂 so good to see you here. When you were sharing about your boy with homework it really hit home with me. My HF girl is so similar. Just can't handle the stress of homework.

Oh and the have a go thingy yep can so relate!!!!

[mapalarkin]

Thankyou Chit Chat and Witchy.Im definatly lodging a complaint on Monday after I see the principle.the dept of Ed office is only down the road and I will be there.I have another mum coming with me for moral support and as a wittness.Her son is high functioning like Darcy so she understands.After I nicely and calming give them a talking down (im not going to swear) Im going to ask that the 2 boys be recognised for what they did and that the principle pull his head out off the sand and look at what is happening in the school and stop concentrating on being an idiot.Our school doesnt even have a sick bay for the kids.They have to sit in the office area and wait for mum or dad.Darcy has been off all day.Hes been angry and teary and I really want to hug him but I cant because he wont let me.Anyway will let you all know what happens on monday.I will either get results or end up on 6pm news getting arrestted lol.

[krazy.kiwi]

Darcy has been off all day.Hes been angry and teary and I really want to hug him but I cant because he wont let me.

I know exactly how you feel there. :_|

When Cam was lying in emergency with appendicitis, waiting for the medical staff to find a surgeon, he was in so much pain and he didn't want cuddles. He did let me stroke his hair though (he had a new "#1" hair cut)

Since then, hair storking has been our intimate affection.



((((((Hugs)))))) for you :-x

[witches*wol]

storking😮 lol 😉

[krazy.kiwi]

> storking😮 lol 😉


PMSL


I must learn to proof read before posting.


try stroking :8}