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[cat_mioux]

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[cat_mioux]

Jacks I love it that you received a compliment about the wonderful job you are doing raising your kids, at a time when you needed to hear it. :-x

YCDI - nothing is random. And I'm going to give you tough love :^O and say yes, you did attract it. And you were so angry you blew the light bulb and then you took out your anger on yourself and chipped your tooth.

I'm only saying this to you because I know you do understand. A Buddhist quote I love says "Our environment reflects our Life Condition". Everything that happens to us is the effect of a cause we make. Everything.

There was no lesson in your exchange with the hysterical bride. It was just the effect of a cause that comes from within you. If there was no cause, she would have rung when you weren't there to answer, or she might have vented at someone else ...

Try this experiment. When you are speaking to a difficult person imagine a beautiful compassionate light filling their heart. Then observe what happens.

Some days I'm just in a beach mood and I want to stay in that mood. I'll get the difficult people and (sad to say!) I enjoy the verbal tennis match. So on those days I don't bother practising loving compassion. But when I do, the kind of people I attract amazes me.

[thebraff]

Sending lots of higs and hugs from Krakow (Poland).  We visited Auswich today.  A very moving experience.

YCDI, very big hugs to you.

Jacks, you and your Mum are in my thoughts.  :-x

What a lovely neighbour to offer you the bed and to reinforce with you on the wonderful work you are doing with all your Carzy's.

Waving to Mia and hope to see you soon.

Take care everyone and don't forget about Damo on Dancing With the Stars this Sunday night.  Someone will have to tell me how wonderful his performance is.  :-x

[cat_mioux]

Mrs Braff ((hugs)). I thought you were probably visiting Auschwich having travelled to Poland.

I'm working Sunday night but I'm sure someone here can give you the Damo run-down!

Where are you off to next?

[blacksheep9772]

Well said Cat.  I wanted to say the same thing but couldn't come up with right words!  Absolutely nothing is random.  :-x  And of course remember YCDI that 'like attracts like'.  If your peeved, that will attract other peeved peeps to you and you to them.  Good news is that you DO have control over it.  :-x

Yep. I'm thinking Braff IS a secret agent!!!!  What other explanation could there be!!?? 

[jack*in*a*box]

How exciting for you Braff...you must be having the time of your life you lucky girl.....and a secret spy? You will have to change careers now we know..lol.

youcan...attraction is a weird and wonderful thing. I do wonder how we can attract such negativity towards us sometimes. I hope you recovered ok from your fall..what a shock it must have been.

Hugs to all you lovely OKers :-x

[youcandoityoucandoityoucandoit]

thanks everyone for your viewpoints,and cj for your kind words.I am back home from the dentist.

ms Cat,it was interesting to read that you think Im powerful enough to stop electricity,but I wasnt angry at this bride,nor was she at me.She was screaming because she was upset with herself in not feeling good enough to spend a large amount of money on herself.I was just who she vented at and thats what I meant by random.I was doing my job.I had spoken to her earlier in the day,and her mother as well and my impression was that we were all working for the same end-the happiness of the Bride. When she phoned later in the day,expressing her doubts,I listened and went through the options again with her as she was screaming and crying..I didnt understand her reaction-she has since picked her gown up and apologised and explained to the staff member(not me)that she was really ashamed of her behaviour toward me,as I was so patient and helpful.

I dont believe that I attracted this person to behave towards me like this-it was as if I was in the eye of a storm,but looking out,if that makes sense.I know am responsible for my reaction to it-which was patient and professional..as for falling off the stepladder and chipping my tooth-that was simply because I was upset by the emotions I listened to on the phone and being distracted..

I believe I was there to do my job, and perhaps its not random that this bride behaved like this and I needed to counsel her, but I dont believe I attracted the situation.As blacksheepy said-'sometimes people just dump their drama on you,its not about you.Nor is it anything personal.'

I hope you are having a wonderful time travelling braff:-xBerlin is an extraordinary city isnt it?Also,last year I went to Krakow and Auschwitz and it was life changing.Extraordinary.Very sobering.

[soul_art]

WOW...really, all I can say is WOW !!!!

I have read this thread from the beginning and may not have posted a lot lately but do try to catch up when I can.

ATM, I'm sitting here absolutely stunned that you would think that we all create something that causes the things that happen in our lives.

as a child..what did I do to create the response of being abused ?

as a teen..what did I do to create an illness that nearly killed me?

I could go on but I'm sure you get what I'm saying.

How dare you put your beliefs on to others in this way ?

and YCDI....I don't believe for one minute you caused the light bulb to explode or that you deserv ed to be on the end of the phonecall from hell.  I'm sorry you had such a bad day, we all have them from time to time, for no other reason than..sometimes, life sux.

[cat_mioux]

I understand you feel offended by my beliefs soul. Perhaps if you'd taken some time to ask a few questions about my beliefs instead of having a knee jerk reaction i.e "how dare I force my beliefs on others .." you may have had the opportunity to understand a little more about my Buddhist beliefs.

There are various and complex reasons why bad things happen to good people.

The Buddhist philosophy is not about holding on to being a victim. It's about taking responsibility for your life. If your life is not how you want it to be you can make those changes from within because those changes will affect your environment.

We can believe events are random and therefore we have no control or you can choose to believe we have choices in how we are going to challenge and face lifes difficulties. You can choose to believe in a God that rewards or punishes or you can choose to believe we are the creators of our world.

I did NOT say YCDI "deserved" to have the phone call from hell or injure herself.  No one deserves to be treated badly. That is a gross and ugly interpretation of Buddhist beliefs. The purpose of life is to be happy. Most of us have subconscious beliefs that are obstacles to our happiness. These beliefs affect our world by attracting certain people and situations that are reflected back to us, like a mirror in which to see what those obstacles are so we can change them.

I said these things to YCDI because I know her to be an incredibly insightful and wise woman and I felt she would not be offended if I "challenged" her with a different perspective.And that's all I meant it to be. A different perspective, to help YCDI find meaning (or no meaning) in what happened.

As I've always said .. Buddhism is not for the faint hearted. Believe me , I've struggled for years with the concept of letting go of blame, letting go of believing I'm a victim.

I still struggle so much, but the more I practice, the more I see the effects of the causes I make .. the more I see how true it is for me.

But that's just me. It doesn't have to be your truth.

[blacksheep9772]

I would also like to add that Cats views about us creating our own lives etc isn't just related to being a Buddist.  I'm not actually a buddist myself but still beleive in the same views as Buddists.

But I think a main point is being missed here.  We are not talking about what happens on the PHYSICAL world here.  Yes, our beleifs are reflected in the physical world but it all begins with what we beleive in.  If we beleive the world is bad - that is what we will experience.  If we beleive the world is good - that is what we will experience.  No one is pushing their sprituality onto anyone here.  If someone is not ready to explore it, that is there choice. 

[thebraff]

Hello all, greetings from Budapst, Hungary.

I can't tell you my code name or I will have to do away with you B-);-)  but I am about to go and have dinner sailing on the Danube River.

Youcan, I meant to comment on your chipped tooth.  I hope you are being reimbursed for your expenses via Workcover or whatever it is called.  It certainly happened at work in a work related incident.

Blacksheepy is right.  A lot of what is said here are suggestions and you take on board what suits you as an individual.  I enjoy reading MsCats posts, but I don't go out and religiously change my lifestyle.

MsJacks, thinking of you.  *hugs*

Hello to MIA  *waves*

I had better get ready now.  I can't keep my fellow martini drinking cohorts waiting.  I like mine shaken not stirred.  😛