on 04-11-2013 12:09 PM
Not sure if anyone remembers..... thought I'd do an update anyway.
I haven't been on the boards for a long while, just a lurk or two everynow and then...
I ended my 24 year marriage June last year and finally had my divorce granted last week....less than a month and it will be absolute!
It's been a hard 16 months but I finally got here and couldn't be happier...can't say the same for the ex LOL, he's a sad sorry mess that isn't working and is homeless
on 04-11-2013 06:28 PM
@freddie*rooster wrote:I'm not berating Dyno, I wish her all the best. I don't know what her life has been like with her OH, but I can't help but feel sad for him, sad because he refuses help. That's just me, I guess.
not just you freddie.
on 04-11-2013 06:32 PM
@dynogrl wrote:
My apologies, I was unaware you knew my thoughts better than I do... I must be a sad little woman then, best I pull my head in
i responded to your words based on how i read them, no amount of pouting is going to alter that.
in this big wide world not evryone is going to pee in your pocket and tell you how wonderful you are.
nowhere did i even presume to know your thoughts.
on 04-11-2013 06:33 PM
That makes 2 with a
on 04-11-2013 06:36 PM
on 04-11-2013 06:42 PM
on 04-11-2013 08:51 PM
i simply said how your words were coming across to me.
on 04-11-2013 08:58 PM
Dyno, I really do know where you are coming from. I have lived with the same situation for almost 50 years. It is a terrible choice to make, do I stay and support my Partner, do I leave and try to make a new life, how will the children be impacted whichever decision I personally make. I made the opposite choice to you, but that does not necesarily mean that it was the right one, If I was at your stage of life and marriage now, I honestly don't know if I would make a different decision.
Whichever way you go, you are dammed if you do or dammed if you don't.
I truly hope that your life is better now and that your ex gets the help that he needs.
Don't worry too much about the kids, they are incredibly strong and regardless will make their own way in life.
I hope that this makes some sense.
on 04-11-2013 09:22 PM
on 04-11-2013 11:19 PM
Dyno there is only so much a person can do for another person.
If you spend your entire life trying to help someone in denial then you are just denying your own life. You did the only thing left for you to do.
on 05-11-2013 07:25 AM
I agree with you 100% Buzz. Also, the children will be making their own way in the world in time, making their own new lives, and leave all this behind them.
Dyno has left her life of misery behind her now. How she took it for so long is beyond me.
She has my admiration.